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Threatened miscarriage: how to stay positive

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I know 2 couples whose pregnancies were threatened by miscarriage. The first couple was also told 50/50 and mom was given bed rest. Baby turned out healthy! 2nd couple was always in and out of the hospital. Any sign of bleeding and she'd have to go back to the hospital. She was on bed rest and got around via a wheel chair. She delivered at 7 months via C-section because of her stage 4 diabetes status. Baby survived and is healthy!


I had one miscarriage that went beyond 3 months. There was the emotional loss (first pregnancy I was aware of) as well as the physical pain. I also had a great midwife that went over with me the whole process and what to expect. From the time we knew the baby had died to the time it was over, was 8 days. It was one of the hardest points in my life. I had no idea I was going to miscarry until my ultrasound and they couldn't find a heartbeat. I opted not to get a D & C because I was only thinking of the physical pain and knew I could handle it, not the emotional loss and what a toll that would take on me. Not sure if I had the option again, what I would do? I am blessed to have 1 son who is 5 now. During my entire pregnancy I was extremely worried about miscarrying. He was taken 6 weeks early via C-Section because I had Placenta Previa. He was over 5 lbs at birth so we were able to take him home after 5 days in the hospital. Some days I feel I was not able to fully enjoy my pregnancy because I was always worried of miscarriage. It never felt better than to hear him cry in the operating room! I think that was the first time in many months I relaxed and let myself enjoy the idea of being a mother!


I had that and they told me that it was about a 50/50 chance of success. It turns out that I had another issue affecting my pregnancy (low progesterone) and I miscarried.

Please don't let that scare you. I know how fragile your emotions are right now.

I had brown spotting from 5-10 weeks when I was pregnant with my daughter and I was terrified because of my 2 previous miscarriages. They never found the source of the bleeding but it never turned red or increased in quantity like the miscarriages did.

My daughter was born happy and healthy despite the bleeding and thanks to progesterone supplements. It is possible, stay positive!


When I was told I was having a miscarriage I was completely destroyed. I was depressed for two months, I didn't even want to leave my room.

Now, Most days go by and I don't really even think about it. That makes me feel relief and then overwhelming guilt.


Miscarriages can physically and emotionally painful and it isn't always easy to move past them. It's a loss! Your baby passed away and even though you might not have had them in your arms... you carried them inside of you . I am so very sorry for your loss. I promise it will get easier. I just takes time and don't be afraid to talk about it and don't be afraid to talk to your ob or regular doctor about it. I think sometimes we forget the hormonal rollercoaster we go through with getting pregnant and then the miscarriage. Sometimes the emotions are from all the hormones.


To be honest, it's hard to stay positive when you are going through a threatened miscarriage. But here's what I was always told:

Take it easy.

Drink plenty.

Put your feet up.

Think positive.

Some bleeding in pregnancy can be normal for some women.

Try not to stress about it.

Do something to entertain your mind (watch TV for example)

Ask your doctor if he/she will see you and check you out, that sometimes helps, especially if they can find baby's heartbeat. You can also ask them to check your progesterone levels too, just to see where they are at and your hCg levels too.

If you are at all religious, pray, and ask those around you to pray. Even if praying does not save your pregnancy, it can fill you with immense peace as you are going through it feeling supported by prayer and people who care about you.

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