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What does it mean, spare the rod spoil the child from the Bible

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This does not necessarily mean spanking. It means not allowing the child to behave inappropriately and/or allowing the child to have his or her way or to disrespect others and not discipline the child for his/her actions. It creates a "spoiled brat" if you do.

It is speaking of a rod of discipline. Often, a rod can be referred to a staff. When thinking of a staff, at times, many leaders carried one as well as shephards (using it to guide their flock) showing authority and guidance. We, as parents, need to show guidance, guiding our children in the right direction and showing authority.


I feel it means if you don't discipline your child your asking for a disrespectful child. You have to instill morals and values and it can be done without beating on a child. You should be able to have a certain look of authority on your face that your child know who in charge. You should have a certain tone in your voice that when you speak you have their full attention. I raised three boys now 22,20 & 10.... I never beat them and van count one one hand bow times I had to spank their bottoms. And they turned out to be some awesome respectful young men.


many people think the quote “Spare the rod and spoil the child” comes from the Bible.

“spare the rod and spoil the child”
does not come from Proverbs or any other part of the Bible.

There are at least five verses in the Bible’s Book of Proverbs that talk about using a rod to beat a child — for his own good, of course but,It’s from the long 17th-century poem Hudibras, written by Samuel Butler (1612-1680), a cheeky British poet who enjoyed mocking religious extremists and hypocrites.


if you dont spank your child then your spoiling them. Its talking about physically spanking your child as discipline. I was raised this way,called old school and i turned out just fine. I mind my manners, i watch my language,i watch what i wear. I also respect my elders. Love my country and flag,and dont mind hard work due to my upbringing. Im proud to have been raised old school. No it doesnt mean your beating your child,or that its child abuse, its just discipline.


Many people use the phrase "spare the rod and spoil the child" as clear evidence that the Bible wants parents to spank their children. BUT...this is not a Bible verse. Just like "God helps those who helps themselves" and "cleanliness is next to Godliness" are not Bible verses.

The phrase "spare the rod and spoil the child" actually comes from the poem "Hudibras" written in 1664 by Samuel Butler


I know this excerpt from the Bible is used often to justify spanking. I have always wondered how it was a justification though. Typically the "rod" was what herders used to move their animals around as needed. So we see the rod as a guidance tool to keep the herd on a certain path. I seriously doubt that many herders beat their flock to get their point across. I'm sure some did, but it would make more sense that they wouldn't want to injure their animals and would use the rod simply as a guidance tool.


Many people use this saying when discussing discipline of a child. What is basically means is that if you don't spank a child then they will not learn what is wrong. If you aren't disciplining them, they will be spoiled and not take responsibility.

Proponents of spanking often use this phrase. in the ESV of the Bible, it can be found at Proverbs 13:24. "Whoever spares the rod hates his son,

but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him."

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