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Why you should and shouldn't stay at home with baby

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I don't think there is anything wrong with either situation. It is unfortunate that sometimes we feel like we don't have a choice as to what we do. I am very blessed to be able to stay home with my children while also working and contributing to the household. Not everyone has that choice, but I truly believe that everyone should!!


I thought that I wouldn't mind going back to work, but today I find that I am very wrong. My husband is kind enough to Skype with me every couple of hours just so I can see my girl smile. She says, "Hi Mama," and I just want to grab her up and hold her. I can't wait to get back home, and I grow to resent the 10 hours I am forced to be away (8 hour day, 2 hour commute).


I'm a SAHM too. We just figure that with 2 kids that we would pay as much in child care as I would make. Plus I love staying home with my babies :)


I really take issue with the whole I have to stay home so I'm not "missing anything" in my son/daughter's life.

Also, a lot of women with new babies don't realize that as the children grow, the nature of your work as a stay at home mom changes dramatically. If your children are at school all day long, what difference does it make if you work outside the home or not?


This week was my first week back at work. I have to say, this has probably been the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life.

I have been so lucky and fortunate enough that my sister and mom are watching my baby girl while my husband and I are at work.

However, I've been struggling with the fact that I'm not the one who is with her the majority of the day.

If I had a choice I would honestly probably stay at home, until she at least was in school.


I really struggled with the decision to stay home. I kept thinking "what am I worth if I don't bring home a pay check", "I feel like my daughter will benefit from me being with her 24/7 but what if she doesn't or it isn't worth the cost of losing my income?

But the thing tht pushed me over the edge to choose to stay home was simple math. In a week if I was out of the house my normal 50hrs per week for work I would only spend 41hrs per week with her.

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