She drives me CRAZY!

I used to get along great with my husbands mom until I had my baby, we are currently living with his parents because my husband had a stroke while I was pregnant and it has taken us a while to get back into the swing of things. She drives me insane! She walks into our room in the mornings sometimes without knocking to see if the baby needs anything and it is so irritatiing! She is getting better about it since we have talked to her but she is always acting like she was such a better mom!! it drives me crazy!

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    02/11/14
    When I was with my ex at the time his mom was constantly blowing up my phone and trying to tell us how to raise our son. I know she meant well and everything but at the same time it was annoying at times. No mother likes another mother telling them how to raise their children, on the other hand giving them advice is different but if she's trying to shove it your face that's not cool. I suggest maybe another sit down with her. I bet she does mean well, she is probably very excited about the new baby and just wants to be helpful. At the same time she's been a mom a lot longer then you so I think she means well too when she does act like a better mom. It's a phase and she will back off soon though, once she knows that you two are all set and back into your swing of things she will get better.
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      02/11/14
      I understand. I also use to live with my in laws, and after a while you reach a point when you know it's time to go, but crazy thing is I learned a lot about myself while staying with them, and now me and my family have moved on. If you try get to know your MIL you might actually start to like her, that's what happened for me. Of course your MIL is going to do things you don't always agree with, but she's only showing love and concern, imagine if she didn't...? Me and my MIL are closer than ever now because we learned how to communicate respectfully.
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        02/11/14
        yes, i completely agree with yall. she definitely means well, but I think the time is here where we just NEED our own space if you know what I mean! she just comes on a little strong with the way she acts, but I do think it is probably just a phase Holly. Everyone is so excited about the new baby and especially with her being a girl. My mother in law always wanted a girl and ended up with 3 boys, so it was special that her first grandchild was a girl! I think another talk would probably be the best thing! I miss how good we used to get along!!
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          02/11/14
          Mother in laws can be tough to deal with... I KNOW! Sorry for this... I hope she means well... I know mine do... it is just irritating!
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            02/11/14
            You guys will get along again like you did back then. And yes it makes more since now seeing as it's her only grand daughter. And I know how you feel about the own space thing..I still live with my dad and my "awesome " step-mom. Id be more then happy to have a mother in laws like yours then a step mom like mine. Just think she could be way worse! she could not want nothing to do with the grandchild so in the long run it will work itself out and your daughter will want to spend time with her when she is older because she will remember that her grandma did care a lot. I wish you luck if you do another talk with her!
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              02/11/14
              It is! you are exactly right!! I am just going to pray about it and hope that God gives me a little more patience with her! I love her but it is hard with her always wanting to do everything and say everything about the baby! I am looking foward to having our own space and being able to have a break! But at the same time, she is sweet and I love her dearly, she took me in a couple years ago when i had no where to go after my parents kicked me out! I just need to remember she is just excited and all this craziness will pass!
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                02/11/14
                Exactly she sounds like a wonderful person! I think you should just be honest but nice like " Hey I can't thank you enough for your help with everything I truly appreciate it and love that you are so into my daughters life, but I really want to raise her like this and your opinion does matter to me so I will ask when I need help because you've been there before but if I don't agree with how you think I should do something with my daughter I don't want you to get mad" itd be good to remind her of all the good and how awesome she is for being there for all of you and taking you in like she did. That just shows that she does care about you all a lot and I don't see her getting to upset about anything if you bring it up to her because of the love she has for you guys... I bet she can relate to how you are feeling because I bet her mother and mother in law did the exact same thing. I think most mothers/grandmothers do . And way down the road when your little one has a baby you will end up doing the same thing with out realizing it and I think she just doesn't notice herself doing what she is.
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                  02/12/14
                  Stefany ~ Haha!
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