Prom Pains

So I am a mother to two teens; one biological girl who is now 17, and my stepson who is 15. My daughter and I used to be incredibly close, until my husband and I got married. She was the biggest advocate for us getting married, so she doesn't resent that. However, in the last year or more, we have grown further and further apart. Sometimes it feels as if I don't even know her any more. She has changed so much from who she was, and the values she had. And she is ALWAYS mad. And she is about to be madder. She asked a guy to the prom. Which is great, except for the fact that said boy has stood her up twice. And the fact that he told her that he was going to have to ask a girl who could drive, so he could get to prom, as his parents don't have him on their insurance. My daughter does not have her license yet, and though she wants to take the test, in all honesty, I don't think she will pass it. She can't drive and refuses to take advice. She gets mad when it is offered, or she is told to slow down, or do something differently. She has almost wrecked with me and just the other night she sideswiped my mirror. Even if she would, through some miracle, pass the drivers test, I don't feel that an inexperienced driver should be driving her date to prom, at night, on a weekend, in a busy place, in heels and a formal gown. So, you guys say a little prayer for me, cause it's about to break loose in Momma's house!

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7Kimberly AcordGlen Fork, West Virginia
    02/11/14
    8Theresa Gould
    No advice, but I feel for you and wish you all the best as you handle it all!
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      02/11/14
      Amber Bradley
      Definatly praying for you, I hope Brynlee isn't that difficult in her teen years!
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        02/11/14
        Oh MAMA... I feel your pain... I watch my sister with my nieces go through it.. GOOD GOD I am NOT Looking forward to this time.. It's shocking how sweet they once were and then there venom towards their mother... I'm like.. whaaatttt... hold the phone...Hell no...

        I actually apologized to MY mom if I was as nasty as that..

        Hang in there.. stick to your guns, know your boundaries.. remind her you love her, stay even keeled and she will be okay. You're a good mom... its' hard to let go and let them make mistakes.. and then be the bad guy...

        Props to you... and tons of prayers...
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          02/11/14
          7Kimberly Acord
          Thanks, everyone. In many ways I've been blessed with her. She's an overachiever, and has always excelled at whatever she tried, which leads to the problems with taking criticism for her driving ability. She's a straight A student, taking AP and college placement classes, doing color guard, and working a part time job. She doesn't do drugs, smoke or party. She doesn't have or want piercings or tattoos, and I don't have to worry about some things I've seen other parents worry about. It's more a certain sweetness about her has been lost. :( She, I guess like most teens, thinks she knows it all, will never make mistakes, and doesn't have to follow house rules because she's 17. :(
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          02/11/14
          Amber Bradley
          To be honest I was kind of a shit kid too, Ashton and I were high school sweethearts and would always sneak out to make out or go to a party with friends but my mom trusted us which led me to straighten up haha its a faze for sure, she will get better.
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          About Kimberly Acord
          Born: Glen Fork, West Virginia
          Current: Glen Fork, West Virginia
          Birth: May 24
          On Moms.com since: Jan 24, 2014
          I'm a married SAHM after working outside the home until a year ago. I have 5 beautiful children, and 2 awesome stepchildren. I love reading, cooking, laughing, and family things. God has given me a lot of blessings, and I'm so thankful for them.