The working Moms?

How did you do it? If you are a working mom I tip my hat to you. I tried two different times to get a job and work and I just cant seem to last very long. When I leave my house all I think about is my son, and all the things I could be doing at home with him. Teaching him new things and him teaching me new things. I just cant seem to get past leaving him for hours at a time to deal with people I don't even like. How did you do it? Or haven't you been able to either?!​

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    10/15/13
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    I do a lot of work from home, I own my own business, it is a new business and it keeps me busy, just since it is new it is not really enough income for me right now. I am going to start college in the new year and then my career after that will be my dream job. Just the jobs I get right now, they are basic waitress jobs or being a bartender, and I do not love dealing with rude people when I can be home loving on my son. I just don't think I have a good enough mind set to block it out when I am at work. I wish it was that easy.
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      10/15/13
      I think the kicker here is.. LIKING/LOVING what you do for a job... if you hate what you are going to do and be gone doing.. then of course you would dread going :) If you love going somewhere or helping for a few hours a day.. it might not seem so bad being away from him for a few hours. I work from home for the most part.. but I have a few days where I am out n about.. and I hope to keep that up once the baby is born! In fact.. I just made a big change in the job that I do outside the home... going from visiting doctors all day, 2 1/2 days a week.. which I dreaded.. to working at a local barre studio which I cannot get enough of! I think finding the right piece, if you want to... would make all the difference for you.
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        10/15/13
        My home is very clean, I am total opposite. However I have the time to clean when my son is away with his father. I am a single mom and I let his dad have him 3 times a week for a few hours. I always clean and stuff while he is gone to keep my head busy so i'm not worried about what is going on over there. This also adds to why I do not want to work, that is just more time I am away from him and the 3 times a week is enough I think.
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          10/15/13
          I'm not mom - but definetly working)).
          And I'm going to be SAHM - the work is only work, and the kids are the sence of life.
          I cant imagine me working while my kids are making first steps...
          So Brittney, I'm on your boat!
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          I am still a college student, I took this semester off to have my son and only have the stress of him, not homework or studying. I am going to go back in the New year and I cant wait because I love school. Just being away is going to kill me. I wish I could be a stay at home mom forever, but then again I love the career I have decided to go into. I also think my son will love it when he is older. I just wish I didn't have to miss time with my son, and could have the career I want. I cant get both though I know.
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            10/15/13
            8Theresa Gould
            I work from home and can't imagine working outside the home (only on my worst days! ha!). When my eighth was born I worked on a call team from home but had to frequently be away from my son for the from the time he was 3 months old to 8 months old, especially as he discovered his little voice. I found that hard and he was usually just downstairs. I'd take a break when he needed to be nursed. I honestly don't know how other mothers do it.
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              I started working again 3 months after my fist was born and I didn't like leaving her but I felt better because I was working the 4-12 shift at a gas station and the hubby was working days. I had to miss the evenings but at least I got to be with her during the day. I quit at the gas station when my oldest was about 1 1/2 yrs old and started working days elsewhere and the hubby is working nights at the same place he was working.

              My oldest is 4 now and I now have a 6 mo old. I took off on early maternity leave 7 weeks before my second was due and because of the cost of daycare I have not gone back to work. I have been loving getting to hang out with my kiddos but I hate the isolation that I feel. I am going back to work next week. I am excited to be getting out of the house, getting adult interaction, and getting to let someone else take care of my oldest for a few hours a day. I know it sounds bad to say it that way. I am excited that she will get to interact with other people without mom and dad being there. Initially they will be with a mom whose children are grown and out of the house. Her husband may be around occasionally also. Another mother with two of her own is starting a home day care and when she is able to get up and going my two will be going there so they will have other children of variant ages to interact with. I look at it as a chance for them to learn from and teach other children and a chance for them to create friendships with other children. It is also a chance for me to socialize with other adults and create friendships for myself and get good exercise and some income in the process.
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                10/18/13
                I work from home a lot now, because I own my own business. It is very different from having my bartending job, but I love it a lot more. I get the time with my son. I also have meeting sometimes so I also get my time away. I think its the best way to have the best of both worlds. I start school again in January so I will be away more again and im not sure how I am going to do. I just hate knowing I might be missing something for a first time. I know if I am home with him I am the one teaching him, so I know what he is learning. It just gives me relief knowing whats going on.
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                  I took on a lot of part time jobs when my kids were small, like neighborhood babysitting/daycare, and substitute teaching, which was great because if they needed me and for some reason I couldn't/didn't want to go in that day, I didn't have to. I also wrote for newspapers, which I could do from home. Now I'm in school while my kids are at school and I work on weekends when family is more available to watch them. Part of being a mom is battling that guilt we feel, like no matter what we're doing or where we are, we should be doing something else somewhere else. It's important to remember that in order to best care for our little ones (or bigger ones) we need to also take good care of ourselves, this means pursuing things we enjoy so we have more to share. It's tough, but finding a balance takes a lot more creativity than we might expect it to.
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                  About Brittney Stilley
                  Born: Lagrange, Indiana
                  Current: Wolcottville, Indiana
                  Birth: February 18
                  On Moms.com since: Oct 14, 2013
                  I am a young new mom just trying to figure things out day by day. I have a Handsome little boy who is happy and healthy, I could not ask for anything more than that! Everyday we both learn new things from each other and our love grows even stronger.