So my mother-in-law is throwing me a baby shower on March 1st and while I appreciate the thought, I really don't want to go.... my mother was planning on throwing me a shower but then I moved back to Virginia to be with Alex and it feels like his parents are trying to replace mine and I don't like it. I know that my mom is upset that she can't throw my shower or even come to it so by going, I'm hurting my mom's feelings. I don't know what to do...
I can relate to you a lot. Go ahead and private message me if you want to talk more about this. I know how you are feeling. Hang in there.
Is it possible you are over reacting to your mother-in-law? She may not be trying to replace your mom, just take care of you during a difficult time. Maybe she's just trying to step up a bit to help out.