Dealing with Loss
So, I know it's common for pregnancies to end... The doctor told me one in five known pregnancies end in miscarriage. Unknown ones could be as high as one in two.
As big a fan as I am of information, often finding significant comfort in it, sometimes I just need more.
I've spent the last few days away because I have been going through a miscarriage. I'm sure others out there have been through the same...
Luckily, family had flown in right before it happened so there was a strong urge to stay strong. Plus, going out with them really helped to keep my mind off things. That's the best thing I've found so far- staying busy. That, and reminding myself that after years of infertility, this is still a step in the right direction. My husband and I will be trying again soon.
What about you? Have you ever experienced this? What helps? How did you handle it?
I've had six losses most at the 10-14 week, one earlier and one at 18 weeks. My response varied, with the 18 week loss being the worst, I still cannot look at photos of Matthew because I fear I'll just start crying. I did find keeping busy helped. Allowing yourself to grieve is key. Grief can come in waves, which can be unexpected if you are unfamiliar with grief. Rest, sleep as you feel the need. Tiredness is not only from losing the baby but also from the grief. Grieving is tiring work.
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