Should We Let Our Kids Quit?

I feel like this is an ever going debate. Do you let your kids quit? Would you ever let them quit something?

I have a hard time with this, I feel like say, if you join a team or dance or something like that then you shouldn't let them quit...there are other people who depend on them, their teammates etc. and the need to know what it is like to complete something. Even if that something it's your favorite thing to do.

Then again as parents we don't want our kids to be truly miserable, and i never want to feel like I am forcing my kids against their will. I have seen plenty of kids like that through sports and you always think "why do they make them do it"

What's your take? to quit or not to quit?

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    02/24/14
    My mum always wanted to learn to play the piano and regretted never learning, and so she decided at 5 that I would start piano lessons. I was forced up until the age of 16 when I was finally able to stand up to her to play that damn piano. I hated it and since the day I quit I have not touched an instrument. I vowed that I would never make my kid do something they didn't want to do (that wasn't necessary for their health or development of course). I would rather have my kid tell me "mummy I want to learn the guitar" and then get him lessons knowing it's his choice, and to let him stop if he finds it's not for him than have him miserable because I made him do it.
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      02/24/14
      I believe in finishing what you start, so if my kid joins something she will have to stick it out until the end of the session/season. To be fair I won't let my kid commit to anything that's too long term or expensive until I know they really will put the time in. Kids need to be able to try different things and decide if they like it or not. I just want to make sure they really put thought into that decision by giving it their best effort. If they don't want to sign up again after it's over that's completely up to them
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      02/25/14
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      02/25/14
      My mom never had much money for us to be in activities we weren't serious about either. She was really open about that and I think it made us realize the sacrifices she made for us to be able to participate. I know that made me try harder and really think through what I was asking her to spend money on, even when I was only 7-8yrs old. It was a great lesson for me to learn. I'm sure your boys will benefit from that lesson too.
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        02/24/14
        Depends on their reason. My son had a year w each instrument. But quit violin early cause he said the music made him sad. I thought that was insightful for an 8 year old and I wanted him to feel excited about playing so I met him switch.
        But if he had said it was too hard or boring or something like that I would have had him stay with it to push thru.
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          02/24/14
          if really miserable and i could tell they really arent with it anymore , i would let my kid quit after a talk about whats going on .
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            02/24/14
            It always depends on the circumstances. With sports, dancing, etc I would encourage them to follow through with what they start. It's not so much what it is, but the principles they learn from following through. I would not force things on my son. If he is not interested at the beginning he probably wont come around. I am just not a huge pusher. His life is about him and not about what I always want him to do, or whatever.
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              02/25/14
              My daughter always wants to quit right after she starts a new activity... this is my 10 year old... she always has conflicts whenever anyone gives her constructive critism (hormonal I think) ...anyway ... we make her stick it out and then tell her just get through this "season" and see how you like it at the end then we can talk about signing up again. That way at least she has given it a try. We found that that works well... she wanted to quit dance because of a conflict with her teacher ... then the next week she said she loved it and wants to do it again! Ah the fickleness of preteens!
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                02/25/14
                My daughter's a toddler, so I haven't run into this situation yet. I feel like I will try to be well-connected with her, though, and when we run into that situation, my understanding of my child will lead me to know whether quitting is appropriate.
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                  02/26/14
                  My answer is NO!
                  Quitting is a bad habbit to pick up!
                  I want my sons to have good charicter. That means they need to learn to finish what they commit to..

                  "EXAMPLE: Dear son decides he'd like to play tennis.. He signs up for the tennis team and then 3 weeks in decides no he'd rather do soccer.."
                  Me.. I say tell him next season he can switch to soccer.. however for now he needs to do his best here.. It teaches him also to make decisions about how much he wants to do something before he jumps into stuff..
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                    03/01/14
                    Neisha ... I agree on this one! Also think about the positive attributes of quitting as an adult. if one is a smoker or drinker ...even a swearer we can show children our perseverance and commitment to "quit" these bad habits!
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