Decision...to work or stay at home
I am new to this site but I would love some help. I recently, like haven't even told my employer yet, have decided to be a stay at home mom. Its scary and a huge decision but I love my children and have loved the last 3 months with them since being on maternity leave with my youngest. I worry about money and sacrifices and not making the "right" choice by choosing this. I am scared that by doing this it will ruin my marriage in some way and feel like I am contributing and doing more when I acutally "go to work". Is it always this overwhelming to make such a change? Please tell me it will get better! I would love some input :-)
It was mind numbing! But the thing tht pushed me over the edge to choose to stay home was simple math. In a week if I was out of the house my normal 50hrs per week for work I would only spend 41hrs per week with her. That's including weekends. I couldn't imagine being away from my baby more than I was with her. What would be the point of being a mom?
So I quit, started my own freelance business from home, struggled, sacrificed, and I don't regret one bit of it.
It's hard to identify yourself outside of a career, but now that I do I feel really liberated. In a job you are expendable. Even if you're a hard worker or the lead in your field there is always someone who can replace you. You're just a calculation in some company's business plan. It's really sad that we make that our identity - it's just not that important. But being a mother is. No one can replace me in my daughter's life :)