Greiving a the loss of a pet

We tragically and unexpectedly lost our dog of 13 years on Friday night (acute seizures). My 13 year old and the dog grew up together from puppy and baby to dog and teenager. She is so devastated by this loss. I don't know what to do to help her. Any advice?

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Christi Bhattacharya
    10/22/13
    8Theresa Gould
    So sorry to hear you lost your beloved pet. I remember when I was your daughter's age I went away on a Girl Guide trip and when I returned my parents had put down our old family dog. I was hurt and angry that they would do that without me saying good bye. They said they did it because he was in so much pain they didn't want him to suffer any more. I got over it so it's safe to say I accepted their response. But for your daughter I don't even have any suggestions but to let her grieve, which may entail many tears, some anger....people grieve differently. So Mollie's idea of a memorial of some sort might be effective in helping her heal or maybe she wants to help some animal shelter or foundation in dedication to your dog. She might even come up with her own ideas of what will help if you start the conversation with the memorial as a starting topic.
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      10/22/13
      Oh man.. so so sorry for your loss, Christi.. losing a pet is so tough.. let alone on a little soul who grew up with them.. I would say talk about it as much as you can.. so they are not angry or keeping things inside.. ask her how she would want to remember your dog.. ? A tree? A rock? Hang their leash in her room? My Mom let me take their collar (after cleaned) and put it around a new stuffed animal that looked like our dog when I was teeny tiny.. I still have it to this day :)
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      10/22/13
      8Theresa Gould
      That's a sweet idea.
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      10/25/13
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        10/30/13
        Christi Bhattacharya
        Thank you for all the suggestions. Our vet was going to get her paw print in clay before she was taken away for cremation. We are still waiting on her ashes and will have a little ceremony when we do. Plus my daughter has decided that she wants a little cremation pendant where she can keep a little bit of her ashes with her. Odd, I know, but this dog was family,
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        10/31/13
        8Theresa Gould
        I agree with Meg. I would never have thought of something like this. I'm glad you and your daughter came up with something to comfort her and help her through this.
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