Have any of you ladies had an Ectopic Pregnancy? If so what was your experience and how do you handle the loss?
Yes I had an Ectopic Pregnancy. I had the Copper IUD and it caused an Ectopic Pregnancy. They had to give me 2 kemo (not sure if that's how you spell it) shots in my back and shoved sometime of pills in my cervix. If the baby would have stayed in my tubes for 1 more week it would have made my tubes explode and cause internal bleeding killing me and the baby. It was painful and depressing because there was nothing I could do to save my baby. I basically had to let them miscarry my baby. I was very depressed for a long time and im still very sad. I got pregnant with my little Levi 3 weeks after. And it made things better but I still think about my angel baby everyday and wish there was something I could have done.
I am sorry you had to experience and go through an ectopic pregnancy. Losses are hard no matter what and I can only imagine how hard it must have been and still is since it wasn't that long ago. There's no time limit on grief. But there's nothing we could have done to save any of our babies so don't beat yourself up about it. Have you done anything special to remember your baby?
Im planning on getting a tattoo for the baby next month. Im going to get an angel in heaven holding a baby with little angels peeking thru the clouds. Then its going to say "Proud mother of an angel baby"
Have you done anything special for your miscarriages?
I planted a butterfly garden at our townhouse, not sure if any of the plants survived the move but we'll see come spring. I also chose the butterfly as a symbol of my lost babies. For the longest time when I had just had three, I kept three butterflies on my pantry door. I haven't done that here at our new house. A friend also made us a doily for our second trimester loss with Matthew's initials.
I have not.. so sorry that you have.. my cousin did.. but then she went and had 3 beautiful baby girls!
Ectopics are the worse. I have been pregnant 5xs, i had an abortion with my first prenancy two ectopics and two miscarriages. they all pretty much suck. surprisingly im still hopeful. (sometimes i dont know if I really should be). Im just finding this site, so reading peoples stories is really helpful. im sorry for everyones losses .