stay or go
Okay I feel that I can share this with you ladies.......me and my husband have been on this rocky road for 5 years now and during those five years we both were not faithful to one another I am 25 he is 27 we have been together since 2004 married in 2008 and while married we lost connection with each other I tried my hardest to gain that love back and he pushed me away and I finally gave up thinking that he did care anymore.....since this year began he is trying to change but i'm not wanting the change cause he is trying to fight for our love back and I already gave up and ready to go our ways and he is not accepting that I do not want a divorce just time apart from eachother PLEASE HELP!
It sounds like your husband IS wanting to change and trying to but you are pushing him to the side because YOU are done with it. To me, that doesn't seem very fair. You said yourself "both of you" had been unfaithful and from the sounds of it; it doesn't seem one sided, like he is the only one causing friction. And now that he is wanting to put all of that behind you two, you are not.
My opinion is sitting down and talking to him, or writing him or whatever you feel will work best for you two and just explaining what is going on in your head..If you don't want to be with him or you just need time apart really explain that to him. Men don't know unless we spell absolutely everything out for them.
I wish you the best of luck! Xoxo