So frustrated...this is long. BEWARE!
This is something my husband and I have been either talking or arguing about since I found out I was pregnant. His sister is a senior in high school and she is graduating exactly one month after my due date... When we found out I was pregnant we didn't know the due date and than when we found out they told us I was due in March..So we thought that would be an OK time to MAYBE travel with a little one.
Well I am due April 17th, and his sisters graduation is May 18th. I don't know how I am going to feel a month or maybe even shorter after I have a baby and a newborn about traveling 7 hours in a car with a new born! My husband knew how I felt in the beginning and said he understood how I felt but a couple months ago has gotten very bitter about my feelings about maybe not going.
Just about a month ago we agreed that he would go with or without me and Abel. If i am not to go he will go for the graduation and then head back home the day after. If i go, we will stay for about 5 days. And this is all IF...IF he gets approved for the leave. Well about two weeks ago we found out his PRT (physical readiness test) could possibly be during the week of the grad. So after we found that out we had our minds set that he will not be able to make it. He then said he would take 11 extra days of leave after Abel is born..
NOW....he called me while at work tonight to tell me his PRT is between the 5th and 9th of May. So now he will be taking 7 days of leave for baby and 7 days to go see his sister grad. Getting into ANOTHER argument he would not listen to a word I was trying to say.. I am so angry and frustrated and he hung the phone up on me which is something we just don't do.. He thinks I don't want him to see his sister graduate! I DO! It's just we are going to be brand spanking new parents. We don't know how either of us are going to feel. It's unfair how is going about this toward me.
SORRY FOR RANT..
My husband's family is very...needy when it comes to him. (thats a nice word i am using..) They will NOT let go of the fact that not everything in his life is about them anymore. It wasn't even that way before I was in the picture so why would it be any different now? They are being selfish. Before me they blamed it on the military but now they have ME to blame. They aren't shy about letting him know that I am the reason he "blows" them off. They are delusional.
WOAH. That was upsetting. She has no right to talk about our "relationship" cough cough* our MARRIAGE like that. My husband and I make decisions together, we actually communicate. She has some nerve...
I have always been so so considerate of his family and their feelings but I am to the point where I don't care anymore. It's time for me to take MY family into consideration more than his family.
His mom actually has been pretty quiet to us for about a month which is super unusual. It's his DAD now....which is even more unusual. So now we got his mom sister and dad all in this cycle. I am just moving forward with MY life and MY family.
I appreciate all of you being here and understanding. Don't know what I would do without