My oldest was definitely planned but we didn't know if I could actually get pregnant or not. So it was kind of a trial for us. My 2nd came after a miscarry (we were trying for another baby at the time), so my 2nd was a nice surprise. This little lady that I'm pregnant with now was not planned at all. My husband and I were having a lot of issues before I got pregnant with her and we were fighting on a daily basis about "family matters." But she came in at a hard time for a reason and I'm very glad (though I wasn't in the beginning) to have her soon to be in my arms ^_^ All babies are a blessing, planned or not.