Confused..

So Monroe's 1 month appt didn't go so great.. They don't feel he is gaining weight like he should be and want me to start supplementing at the end of his feedings with a small bit of formula.. I held it together in the office but I am so upset with myself.. Any Mamas go through this? They think perhaps my supply is just dwindling.. I just feel like an awful Mama.. And now I'm stressed between breastfeeding, trying to pump and supplementing.. And here today was going amazing..

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    07/12/14
    4Katie
    Don't listen to the doctor. Call a lactation consultant and get their help. Sadly very few doctor have been trained in lactation and very few know any actual facts or helpful advice. Did you doctor use the standard growth chart that was made for formula fed babies or did he use a growth chart for breastfed babies?

    Now breastfeed as often as possible for as long as he wants to feed. Don't let him go more than 3 hours in between feedings. Spend naked him in bed with just you and Monroe. The skin to skin naked time will allow him to feed as often as possible and it will trigger your hormones and increase your milk supply.

    How many wet diapers is he having a day?
    How many poopy diapers?
    How is he sleeping?
    Is he active and alert for part of the day?
    Is he meeting developmental milestones?
    Does he seem calm and satisfied after a feeding?

    Please don't get discourage and please do not listen to the doctor just yet. Seek out the help of an actually breastfeeding professional. I can help you too!
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      03/11/14
      8Theresa Gould
      Yes, I went through this with three of my babies. They were my smallest babies and guess what? They are still smaller than my other children were. You are tiny, Meg, so I am going to tell you what my husband always told me, genetics make a difference too. I agree with everything Katie said and will add a few of my own:

      - Drink lots and lots of water, imperative for milk supply
      - If Monroe falls asleep while nursing after only a few minutes, try to wake him up by striping him down so he stays away for a longer feed. If he's been a sleepy baby at all (all three of my small babies were) he just may not be nursing long enough to get enough to put on weight
      - Eat oatmeal for breakfast
      - Get some Fennel essential oil, it's good for milk supply. I would put this on my breasts with my youngest but he did not like the smell so you could put it on your feet in case Monroe doesn't like the smell.
      - Try using Mother's Milk Tea
      - Increase your protein intake
      - Get more rest, rest always seemed to help my milk supply
      - Nap with Monroe letting him fall asleep nursing, sleep with him at night if you aren't already

      You haven't done anything wrong, just try and focus on trying these things and getting your milk supply up, if that is what is needed or having Monroe nurse more frequently.
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      03/11/14
      4Katie
      The latest research is actually showing that too much water can hurt milk supply because it can cause congestion in the ducts by causing swelling in the tissues. It very new and game changing research. They are now suggesting moms drink water to make them feel satisfied and comfortable and that there is no reason to drink too much.
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      03/11/14
      8Theresa Gould
      Interesting. That's new to me. Learn something new every day.
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        03/11/14
        I'm sorry you're going through this, I hope that you can see a lactation consultant and get their help. Eat oatmeal and try some mothers milk tea. I would hold off on the formula as long as you can! I hope things get better for you and Monroe
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          03/11/14
          Tessa
          Im sorry your going threw this. Hugs :). I never breastfed my babies but know that this is not your fault, sometimes things don't go as planned. I agree with the other women, call your lactation consultant, and you are a little person so it really could just be genetic.
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            03/11/14
            You are not a horrible mama!! Doctors are mean and most times insensitive to our feelings. They are just concentrating on baby only... Have you tried making lactation cookies? They are pretty tasty and they help most mommies build up their milk supply.
            When E was 2 weeks he had really bad jaundice, so bad they wanted to hospitalize, but I said give me 24 hours first to see if I could get his levels down first. I ended up nursing as much as I had and pumped and fed him every hour. It worked but, they still sent us to a lactation consultant. She really helped in showing me good positions and the correct way to pump. (I have big boobs and the pump attachment was too small so it wasn't pumping the whole nipple.)
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              03/11/14
              Stay positive. Doctors do not always know what they are talking about. You are doing everything right. Not all babies gain at the same pace. So do not over stress doll. You're a wonderful mama. Thinking of you ♡
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                03/11/14
                Don't feel bad at all! Avery is/was a small baby too. We're lucky enough to have a great pediatrician who is very understanding of the fact that babies come in all shapes and sizes. My first question would be if you are really having a trouble with milk supply or if Monroe just hasn't mastered nursin yet. It took Avery a good 2 months to really get the hang of it.

                Before you start supplementing I would just add a nursing or two each day. If you supplement it could hurt your supply because he'll fill up on something else.

                My supply drops every time I get my period. I know this because I pump 2-3x per week an I'll go from pumping 4oz bottles to 2oz. When this happens I will keep manual pump nearby and pump another 5min each side after she finishes nursing. Usually only drops come out but it stimulates me enough to keep my supply from dropping dangerously low during that time of the month.
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