Do your husbands help you with anything?

Let me give a background history.
My husband and i are 5.5years apart. When we had haiden i went through a period of time of not wanting to accept my son cuz i was only 18. So he took care of him more and the apartment we lived in.

We moved out of that apartment an got a house and had logan. My husband did well up until logan was 6months old. Then he just got really lazy and it was a hassel to bef him to change a diaper.

Now he has not helped one bit unless i am litterally sick and struggle to move. All he does is say good night to the kids and when i do leave him with the boys i try to do so when boys nap. He has maybe only fed vincent a bottle 10times and refuses to feed him his solids.
Right now i have been so stressed, exhausted, and overwhelmed on everything and here is why.
I cook, feed kids and him (even make his plate), clean, go to dr apts, grocery shop, swim lessons, soccer, let the dog out, laundry, change cat litter, vaccum, dishes, bed time routine, put clothes away. I do everything, without help. It makes me feel like a single married mom.

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Ashley
    03/14/14
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    03/14/14
    Ashley
    Yes i have tried talking to him about it, but all it gets is an argument of he works 8-9hrs a day everyday minus weds and sundays.
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    Ashley
    I have and when we have a bday party to host he will jump right in and help but thats the only time.
    He also loves to put on a huge act around family, but only my mom and cousin knows its an act.
    The one time we were at his brothers house, his brother was helping and talking to his dad when i said wow teach ur brother to do dishes( it was scarastic). My father in law got mad and said does he not help u with household chore and i said no. My father in law got mad and started a huge fight saying to him u need to help ur wife when she ask and not ask, u see if somethings not done do it for her. My husband got embarrassed and it made it worse as he now doesnt help at all anymore over one scarastic thing i said.
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      03/14/14
      Yeah, sometimes I have to ask my husband to help out. He is usually good about helping but when I need to just get out of the house for 20 minutes to go to the store quick he complains and I have to remind him that he is gone everyday for work and that I only get out of the house with him and baby maybe 2-3 times a week so when we just need a few things from the corner store, please just let me go.
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      03/14/14
      Ashley
      I ask him to help and he never does or says no i am watching this or that, or playing a game and canr pause it
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      03/14/14
      Ashley
      He has done that. And when i say dinner is done and mine and boys plates are done and made, he says what about mine. I always make the saying ur a big boy do it urself or i dong know how much u want.
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      Birth: March 23
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      I am 25year old stay at home mom of 3boys. I am also married.