Mom, I'm gay.

I want to open up this controversial topic for discussion but let's all keep in mind that everyone has a right to their opinion and feelings even if you disagree with their stance.

Let's say your son(s) or daughter(s) came to you and said "Mom, I am gay/bisexual." What would your feelings be on the matter?

I have personal experience in this matter with Mini (bisexual), and honestly it's not an issue to me. Realistically though, I was worried for her that she might run into bullying or harassment. She's a pretty tough chick, however she is still young and has to navigate dealing with peers.

How do you think you would feel if your child came out to you?

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    03/17/14
    it would be very very hard for me to except it but i'll love them and be there no matter what
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      03/17/14
      Maria
      My children being gay is a non issue. I am a fan of gay rights and the like, so I don't think I'd be upset or disown my children for telling me they're gay.
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        03/17/14
        5Soninka Martin
        I honestly do not know, until it happens to me. To be honest with you. I would not be very happy. But I do know, I will always love my children and try my best to except it.
        I will always be there for my children. Even if I don't like the choices that they made.
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          03/17/14
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          03/17/14
          I don't think it's a choice at all. It may seem like it because we assume everyone is Hetero from birth and then they have to tell us they're gay when their old enough. To us that seems like that changed, when te truth is they were always that way. They were just too young to understand it. I believe children are asexual and puberty is when they're orientation develops. They don't choose the way they develop anymore then choose what bra size they have or how quickly they grow facial hair.

          That's just what I think...
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          04/09/14
          I have grown up with a three people, 2 malea and a female who turned out to be gay. all three I have known since we were very young and I know that it's something that was not a choice but something they were both with. I know they really struggled with it before coming out and now both are very happy and I'm happy for them.
          In my adult years I work with someone who has struggled with their sexuality and tried many times to be straight but it just doesn't work for them. She's a lovely person and I know it's not a choice but just the way she is.
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            03/17/14
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              03/17/14
              I personally believe it is not a choice, any more than being heterosexual is.

              That said, it can be confusing to society to see a person experiment and decide that being gay is not for them. That doesn't make them a faker, or that they used a certain amount of free will to not live that "lifestyle". There is a great sociological study that was done about the sexuality continuum called the Kinsey scale.

              Here's a link, it's very interesting.
              http://www.fullerton.edu/universityblues/gay_lesb…
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                03/17/14
                4Katie
                I do not think your sexuality is a choice, I think it is just who you are. I have many gay friends and family and after getting to know them I am sure it is not a choice. I would fully support my child, gay or straight. I would not judge they at all. I would do my best to ensure they got a normal life just like everyone else. Hopefully gay people will have equal right and be treated better by the time my children are old enough to be effected by it.
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                  03/17/14
                  I don't think this would be an issue for me.. in fact, my husband and I have talked about.. now, I am a practicing Catholic and the church does not agree with it, but more recently has become rather accepting and telling us not to be the judgers, it's not our role and I NEVER thought it was anyways.. one of my husband's best friends is gay and we love him and his partner to pieces.. I would love my child regardless.. if they are happy and healthy then I am happy for them!
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                    03/17/14
                    4Jenn
                    i don't think I would be happy with it, but I wouldn't love that child any less.
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                      03/18/14
                      it would be hard... but depending on the age of the child I might ask ... and how did you come to this realization? ... i would ask that if there were no other outwardly signs!
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                        03/18/14
                        Epiffany endress
                        if any of my kids came out and said that they were gay I would be there for them no matter what I have no problem with gay's never have and never will as long as it makes my kids happy then I am happy and the person they get with they are happy with
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                          04/08/14
                          4Milagro Rivera
                          I would be supportive, I my self am bisexual and coming out to my family was very hard because they believe its the devil and iam goin to hell. I finally told my mom and she looked at me and said"i knew since you were 13" which was good I guess but I have never really told the rest of my family they get offended and yea big fight. but I would support my child(ren), because its who they are, they know they can tell me anything, their uncle is gay and they see I love him to death. weve had this talk because they saw a male couple kissing in the store I told them the truth and the smiled and said that's nice. regardless they are my kids aand I will love them and support them...gay,lesbian,bisexiual, blur, purple etc..
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                            04/08/14
                            4Milagro Rivera
                            I don't believe its a choice in reality we are attracted to ho we are attracted to its not like I woke or my brother woke one day and said well iam turning gay or bisexual. we have felt and known since we were kids that was our sexual preference. I think people don't really understand how it is and say its a choice but honestly that's false its not a choice we were born this way. and I think it sucks the people really believe its a choice just because they don't want to believe that we were born this way.
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