may be TMI
so I am having a little issue with my down stairs. Caroline was a 10 pound baby at birth, over due, and i did it naturally, obviously there was damage to my area. no serious tearing on the outside, but thinking there was definite damage on the inside that the midwife missed. my issue is, i have absolutely no control down there, like when i have to pee, cant hold it, cant even stop in mid stream, which is causing a few embarrassing moments. I have tried kegel exercises, but finding that it isnt helping at all. and this is the part thats really difficult to get out there, i made the mistake of looking down there with a mirror and lets just say i dont feel so sexy anymore, what once was a tight small hole, is now a huge gaping cave, that i half expect bats to come flying out of. the boyfriend swears that he doesnt feel anything different since the baby was born, that it still feels the way it did before, but He also tells me i look beautiful and sexy when i have snot coming out my nose, so not sure how much i trust his judgement, I am feeling extremely self conscious about this. I want to feel normal again, I dont feel sexy at all, and peeing on myself every time i need to go definitely doesnt help. anyone got some tips, or words of comfort.
Took me a while before it was normal again and never quite the same.
Like a year. Sorry. But it snaps back ;)
If it's worrying you I would speak to your doctor about it, but chances are it will heal in time.