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so, how do you ladies feel about your so watching porn?

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8kellyBerea, Kentucky
    03/22/14
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      03/22/14
      Significant other is so? Or did u drop the n in son?

      Two different reactions here.

      Depends. If it were my significant other... On how much, what kind, how often, when and why?

      I'm all for some.. Flavor in a relationship but if he's hiding it or waiting until I go to bed or if its out if the norm porn. Like young girls or boys or fetish or animals!! Then..

      But a little harmless porn every now and then wouldn't bother me. It's normal .. Dudes are dudes. But I'd need to be aware.
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        03/22/14
        8kelly
        im not comfortable with it at all. i personally think it is disgusting lol. i dont need to watch porn, im happy with what i have and if my man wants to watch porn he can be single. i honestly feel like its cheating, if you are in a committed relationship then i dont think either party needs to be looking at other people naked or having sex. i dont know, just my opinion lol
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          03/22/14
          8kelly
          so is signifigant other in my post lol
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            03/22/14
            8kelly
            i dont think sex is anything dirty or shameful but i think porn is. i found a full length movie in the history on my computer this morning called "hot virgin" (full length adult movie) and one called three johns busted for having sex with prostitutes(full length movie) from youtube. i asked my boyfriend about it and he said he didnt know where it came from. it was either him or me, and i know it wasnt me!!! and there was no one else here but the two of us the day it happened.
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              03/22/14
              8kelly
              my boyfriend knows how i feel about it, i made it very clear the first time i found it on my phone!!
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              03/22/14
              Rah roh! That stuff doesn't just land on your computer.

              If he's interested in it and knows how you feel about it then he would hide it for sure. That's when guys hide it.

              I agree totally that porn "shouldn't" be needed. However, some couples like it. Maybe they watch it together or something. Some people are just more sexual that way.

              I however am not. BUT I think that if u feel safe and everyone is aware then a little porn is no big deal. But I want to be clear that if I found out my bf or husband was watching it... Then I'd ask why and do some super sleuthing for sure. It can go very quickly from checking a video out once in a while to every day and harder stuff.

              Most porn to me is disgusting. I just don't get it and it doesn't turn me on. But I've seen some light porn and It was more erotic than explicit. I don't want to watch people doing stuff. Lol.

              But guys masturbate. Regularly. And that's normal. They just do. I don't wanna see it or know about it but I know they do. Is that cheating to you???

              Soooo... The porn is his. How u going to handle it?? I'd try to be more open.. And ask him "hey sweety.. Is there something u need? Or thinking about?"

              Maybe he's scared to tell you but if u give him that comfort place that u won't be mad but wanna know what's wrong then maybe he'd talk about it.
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                03/22/14
                8kelly
                it isnt the first time i have found this kind of stuff. it was on there twice at 2 diff times and there were a couple of other things on there too
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                  03/22/14
                  Tessa
                  I think its one thing to watch porn together to spice up a relationship, if both people are comfortable. But I think its another thing when someone's hiding it( after the other leaves or goes to bed). I feel like its cheating then.
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                    03/22/14
                    8kelly
                    i agree that it is different for couples who are both into it.
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                    03/22/14
                    Ok. So it's happened before. So you know it's his. And he's denying it still? He's afraid you'd be mad or disgusted w him.

                    So I'd open up and at least pretend to be okay with it or want to know about it so he tells you. You guys need to discuss.

                    Some guys may be missing something in their relationship but some guys are perfectly happy and fulfilled but still just wanna see some porn.
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                      03/22/14
                      8kelly
                      hiding it ticks me off lol, but then lying about it after it is found and he is confronted, that really pisses me off. i can not stand a liar, especially one that will lie to me when i have the proof right in front of me!!!
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                      03/22/14
                      Yep. So he's knowing you're mad and doesn't want to deal so he will deny til he dies. Lol.

                      Try a different angle to open communication. Be softer and more interested and warm rather than accusatory. Play maybe, like you'd be interested in watching it to see what it does for you and him and then be open to his answer.

                      Cause at this point he will start hiding it more or better and you will have this weird wedge between u too..

                      Keep us posted. This is tough. I'm sorry. I know what it's like to know someone is lying yet they keep lying but people lie out of fear.
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                        03/22/14
                        8kelly
                        i have done everything everybody has suggested so idk. this is the first thing i have found in about a year. i am a very honest person so im not going to pretend to like something i dont, he would know something was up if i did that anyway.
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                        03/22/14
                        Well didn't mean to be like "heyyy.. I'm starting to like porn" lol

                        I just mean NOT mad. More interested at why HE wants to watch.
                        No lying or manipulation. I'm honest too but to get answers and him to open up you have to change your angle maybe. Same way u go to him about it is getting same results.

                        But idk either!! Just trying to think what I would do. Cause if he's leaving stuff behind by accident than there's gotta be more than one. You don't forget one. You lose one in a bunch of others.

                        I'm sorry. This is so tough.
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                          03/22/14
                          8kelly
                          it doesnt do him any good to deny it either to avoid me being pissed at him. i will be pissed anyway and i will tell him about it lol. he gets it either way because i know the truth
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                            03/22/14
                            8kelly
                            mad is the only emotion i cant hide lol. and he just says i dont know when i ask him why.
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                              07/01/14
                              amanda
                              I really don't feel some type of way about it. At the end of the day I am still the only one he is crawling into bed with. And we still have a fairly active sex life so its not a substitute for us having sex. There are much worse things he could be doing with his time. I am secure enough in our relationship that it doesn't bother me. Although I might joke with him about how he would rather do that than have sex with me when in reality I went to bed early and he didn't want to wake me up because he knows I need my sleep to keep up with the little ones. He knows I am just poking fun and don't actually care about it.
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                              07/01/14
                              amanda
                              Side note. He also never tries to hide it. He is open with me about everything he does. And if I caught him during we would wind up having sex with each other. He rarely does things like goes to the strip club which he isn't really that into but his cousin is all about it and always wants him to go. Rarely does he actually give in and go but as soon as he gets home he will be open and honest with me about it. And he will even tell me how much money he spent. Which is usually only the cost of a beer or two while they are there. Usually he is busy playing on his phone or texting me when they go because he says it does nothing for him and he doesn't like wasting his money on something he could see for free at home and also be intimate with the woman he has at home. It is a different story if we decided to go together. It would be a little bit more exciting for him. Its funny that he would rather go with me than his guy friends. Lol.
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                                07/01/14
                                Uh.. No.. I had some bad experiences with my ex who was a porn addict.
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