School Bullying..

this week has been a tough one for us. We had to pull our kids out of school as my daughter was relentlessly bullied in Gr2 by 2 girls in her grade and a bigger boy in grade 3. We tried for months to have someone deal with it, we were promised kids would be spoken to and things would change. But after multiple bruises, ripped coats, scratches, skipping rope hitting, stick hitting, name calling (and many many many tears and sleepless nights we pulled them. We had to fight to get permission to transfer them .. With the school board, and had to get Mayor/MPP and above involved. So Monday hopefully getting them signed up at our next choice school.

Any advise on how to go about helping build a 7 year old extremely emotional girls self esteem after all of this?? I have some ideas but am curious if anyone else has anything to suggest?

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6Jeanine
    03/22/14
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    03/22/14
    6Jeanine
    It was very heartbreaking, I'm just glad after months of trying to be heard we finally are and she can now go somewhere else. I had to fight tooth and nail to even get permission to switch my kids schools. Where we live we have over a Million people so schools are right:/ luckily it's over and now I just need to work on getting her self esteem built back up!
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      03/22/14
      Beth
      I wonder if some one-on-one dates with Mommy or Daddy would help her? Or maybe making a point of doing something fun with a new friend (or friends!) at this new school?
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      03/23/14
      6Jeanine
      great idea! We usually do one on one outings and take them for things but I think I will bump her turn up and take her out this afternoon:)
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        03/22/14
        my little brother transferred schools in 6th grade because of bullying. He was nervous at his new school but it turned out to be great. He joined lots of different things (part of my mothers plan to get him integrated) and eventually found a strong group of core friends. I'm sure your daughter will do the same.

        My only other experience is teaching martial arts to kids who have low self esteem. We help them set goals and achieve them. We teach our students to cheer each other on and us instructors cheer too. It really helps kids believe that they are strong and capable no matter what the bullies say. If you have a good martial arts school in your area that could be very good for your daughter. Just make sure to pick one that focuses on core values more then competitions.

        It sounds like you are a great mom for fighting for your daughter!
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          03/22/14
          I dealt with this when I was in 4th grade. My mother tried to rebuild my spirits and confidence by bringing me to a bunch of fun activities that I was good at. Not being much of an athletic kid, we went to parks, the beach, etc that allowed me to do whatever I wanted using my imagination and creativity. Sure, I still returned to my new school a little shy, but those days of feeling good about myself and just being happy really helped.
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            03/23/14
            6Jeanine
            Thanks everyone! All such great suggestions!

            Bullying is most definitely no joke and is very scary and heartbreaking! Hoping this new school will be a breath of fresh air for all of them!
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              03/23/14
              6Jeanine
              the school and board have a policy for NO bullying of any kind but they never enforce it. When we contacted our MPP they told us they couldn't believe the issues and things they've been hearing about this school (they couldn't say obviously) but I can only imagine :(
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