There are traits about your parents that you never realize until you are an adult. My mom is a huge enabler. And in that process my father has several very bad habits that make my mother upset. So she will call me with her struggles and complaints. It's hard for me to help her or sympathize for her, since she has created a lot of her own problem. In a lot of ways she even seems to realize what she needs to do it fix it but she won't.
I haven't had to "mother" my own Mom.. thank goodness..