Question: How structured is your day with your child/children?
I want to have more structure in my baby's life, but I am struggling. My husband and I have odd working hours. He is supposed to be working full-time from home, and I work MTWF in the office and Thursdays from home. My husband's job is very attention-intensive, so he tries to do it in the evenings and on the weekends, which leads to him sleeping like a teenager. My work hours are officially from 10am to 6:30pm, and on my in-the-office days, I have an hour+ commute each way. However, because my husband doesn't like to get up on time, I am often very late for work, and I kind of hate that. I usually get home from work at around 8pm, and because of that, my daughter's sleep schedule usually from midnight to 10am, with a 2-hour nap in the afternoon.
I suppose, technically, she's getting all of her sleep, and that's really what's most important, but I really feel like a bad mom for this sleeping schedule. As I type this, I feel like crying. That's how badly I feel like I'm doing. I read about so many other parents who put their babies to bed early, and I feel like I'm just ruining life for my baby. And I don't know exactly why I feel like that--she's usually cheerful and healthy throughout the day. It feels fundamentally wrong that she's not falling asleep until so late. It's a really big issue I'm having right now.
So! Wow, that was more cathartic than I realized. I didn't mean to vent so much, but rather to ask--how much structure is in your day? Do you set the schedule, and does your spouse support it? Are you worried about times, or just amount of sleep in general?
I suppose I worry because my daughter is 18 months! lol