you know ladies your first baby you give everything baby wants and more and the older the baby gets the more out of control it gets but then wen 2nd baby gets here you more calf and when baby cries you don't run to the baby right oway , and the older baby gets it gets more independent . That's my opinion bc that's how I see things.
My first are not more independent though.. None of them were left long enough to find their own way..
But I"m not sure what you mean in some of your post .. it's a big long sentence LOL.. are you asking? or stating from your experience?