Help with daughter

I need some advice. My 6 year old daughter has become the kindergarten bully. i have tried grounding her where she couldn't go out and play, taking everything away from her, the corner, i have left her with a babysitter while the rest of the family went to the zoo and this last instance i spanked her. she has hit, punched and even hit another kids with her belt. At this point have no idea what to do. the teacher does not call me when things like this happen they refuse to suspend a kindergartener. does anyone have any ideas that could help? Thank you in advance.

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4Santana FerrellColumbus, Ohio
    03/28/14
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    03/28/14
    4Santana Ferrell
    i am really trying. neither her father or I like bullys and we have told her that. the teacher and principal will only make appointments on parent teacher conference days. I have been wondering if she is getting bullied or maybe its because the teacher picks on her i dont know she wont talk to me. seems to be starting her teenage years early. lol
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    4Santana Ferrell
    calls from the other parents
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      03/28/14
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      4Santana Ferrell
      teacher complain it takes out of her teaching time to call. im looking into school transfers today
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      03/28/14
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      4Santana Ferrell
      i have actually wrote a heated letter because they have not suspended her yet. I need her to know there are consequences in as school as well as at home
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      4Santana Ferrell
      i just found out recently her school is the 8th worst school in ohio
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      4Santana Ferrell
      i def. will i am looking into transfering schools now.
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      4Santana Ferrell
      thank you
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      4Santana Ferrell
      i just never thought it would be my daughter doing it i thought if i was going to have a child who was problematic i thought my son
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      03/28/14
      4Santana Ferrell
      i dont like bullys i was bullied in school. i guess if i cant get her transferred i am going to have to home school her
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      4Santana Ferrell
      thank you
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        03/28/14
        4Santana Ferrell
        i may do the movie idea thanks.
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          03/28/14
          4Santana Ferrell
          is it possible all this is coming round because of the new baby?
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            03/28/14
            4Santana Ferrell
            when i ask her whats wrong i get nothing when i ask why do you do these things i get i dont know
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              03/28/14
              4Santana Ferrell
              surprisingly that i can do. i do know her homework isnt challenging enough for this girl they work on words llike... has cat hop stop.. but she can spell alligator monkey elephant her class is working on 4+2 at home we have her doing 20+10.so i guess it is possible she is bored
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                03/28/14
                4Rina
                Personally, I think this is a cry for help from your daughter. Not to say that the behaviour is acceptable and shouldn't be stopped, but it seems to need another approach. Since the punishments don't seem to be working, how about telling her that you are going to go on a mommy-daughter date (I know it's hard to get away when you have a 3 month old!) and tell her that she must be feeling really frustrated with all the punishments she's getting and how much she is getting into trouble at school. Empathize with what she may be feeling even if it makes you sick inside (hard, I know!) and show her that you believe - you know - she is good. I went through somewhat similar (though not as bad) behaviour with my daughter a while ago, and I realized something very important: children live up or down to your expectations. When she sees that everybody important in her life - parents, teachers, etc. - are looking at her like she is bad, she feels bad and behaves that way. You need to appeal to her "better angels" and make her believe that she is good. She will want to rise to meet this estimation that you have of her. If your daughter didn't behave this way in the past, something must have happened to set her off. Anyway, to sum it up: empathize with strict limits. The behaviour isn't acceptable but the feelings causing it are...My two cents.
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                  03/28/14
                  4Santana Ferrell
                  Thank you that helps a lot
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                    03/30/14
                    4Santana Ferrell
                    Right now they are doing good we will know more after my meeting with the principal after school tomorrow
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                      03/30/14
                      4Santana Ferrell
                      She is doing good sorry
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                        04/10/16
                        are you still having issues with your daughter and school what punishment worked
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                        04/10/16
                        4Santana Ferrell
                        I am not having trouble any longer. THANK GOODNESS. I took her to volunteer at a homeless shelter that year (can't remember which holiday) and she took 1 present for every kid she bullied and dropped them off at a homeless shelter and gave to a kids who didn't have (presents were wrapped so she didn't know what it was until opened by child.)
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