so I have decided to send my sons father pictures of him since birth so that way he has them. My son and I talked and he said"mommy, iam a big by now and I wana talk to my dad and get to know him. I love you mommy but I love my dad to and want us all to get along".. he really is a big boy. I will be here though when his fathers runs off again. Mommy will always be here.