How to help your toddler overcome his anxiety
1.Encourage your child to face his/her fears, not run away from them
if a child faces his or her fears, the child will learn that the anxiety reduces naturally on its own over time. The body cannot remain
anxious for a very long period of time so there is a system in the body
that calms the body down. Usually your anxiety will reduce within 20-45
minutes if you stay in the anxiety-provoking situation
2.Tell your child that it is okay to be imperfect.
Often we feel that it is necessary for our children to succeed in sports, school, and performance situations. But sometimes we forget that
kids need to be kids. School becomes driven by grades, not by enjoyment
of learning if an 85 is good, but not good enough.This is not to say
that striving is not important.It is important to encourage your child
to work hard but equally important to accept and embrace your child's
mistakes and imperfections
3.Schedule relaxing activities.
Children need time to relax and be kids. Unfortunately, sometimes even fun activities, like sports, can become more about success than they are
about fun. Instead, it is important to ensure that your child engages
in play purely for the sake of fun. This may include scheduling time
each day for your child to play with toys, play a game, play a sport
(without it being competitive), doing yoga, paint, have a tea party, put
on a play, or just be silly.
4.Model approach behavior, self-care, and positive thinking.
Your child will do what you do. So if you avoid anxiety-provoking situations, so will your child. If you face your fears, so will your child. If you take care of yourself and schedule time for your own needs, your child will learn that self-care is an important part of life. If you look for the positive in situations, so will your child. Children learn behaviors from watching their praents
Saying something casually before they can even say anything... I can just read it on their faces... I'll say, "Man, when I was little, I sure didn't like going to parties where I didn't know anyone.. I always felt strange"... and it opens them up and pet's them know what they are feeling is normal...
Or a big slide... with a large line.. "I remember a giant red slide at my park when I was 6 and it was huge and I was scared and then one day, I just did it and it wasn't that bad"...
That sort of stuff. It's easier now obviously when they're older... But I think talking to your kids like that early ... they get it more than we think...