Divorced Parents (Grandparents to be) and family functions
Does anyone have divorced parents? Do are they able to family functions together or are they still bitter? My parents have been divorced about 7 years now and both remarried. The people they are married to now had nothing to do with the divorce. Anyway, my mom is planning a baby shower and she asked me if my dad and his wife Melissa would be interested in having a joined party, because I'm only around for a couple of days and it will be busy. I asked my dad and he seemed okay with it, but I received a facebook message this morning saying that him and Melissa would rather have they're own party. I just don't see the reason for the extra stress and work when my mom is planning one already. Melissa and I haven't ever had a great relationship but it would be nice if for family functions she could put what ever negativity she has toward me away and leave it alone. I don't want the baby to grow up in this unneeded stress.
I think you should talk to them and tell them now is the time for them to start doing things for the good of your family and they don't have to be friends but they do need to co exist because they are both grandparents to this baby.
The kicker was at my wedding, how normally the father walks to bride down the isle. Problem was, I dont keep in contact with my dad, except for the big things, like birth of his grandchild, or my wedding. My stepdad has been there for me more over the years, but I didnt want to have to pick one of them, and I didnt want them both to do it, because that seemed like it would have been awkward, too. Instead, my husband walked down the isle with me, rather than wait down the isle. That way, we had it as we were equals, partners, and neither parent could be offended.
Divorce makes things awkward.