Teen Moms, is it hard?
I had my daughter 2 months before I turned 17. I wouldn't say it was hard. It was all natural to me, I raised my niece for the first year. I knew nothing was about me anymore and every decision would reflect on her. I had no problem with her crying or waking up every 3 hours for 2 hours, it never bothered me. She is now almost 2. I would in NO way ever tell a young girl to have a baby, it is emotionally hard. All of your friends lose touch, you push people away bc all you can do is be a Mom to your baby. You have NOTHING in common with your friends anymore. You don't party, drink, talk about boys. You talk about the last feeding, the diapers, the outfits, the spit-up, the mile stones your baby reached. You do NOT have time for friends. I learned that fast. I am a mom before a friend, a girlfriend, a daughter, an anything. That baby isn't something you have when you want, and hand off to someone else when things get tough. That isn't being a mom. You wake up every 3 hours feed the baby, change the baby, rock the baby, soothe the baby, cuddle the baby, nurture the baby. Everything you do is for the baby. You no longer care if you look hot going out. You care about making sure you have diapers and enough bottles. When the baby is older, you start to care more about what you look like, you have that time. But a MOM is what you will always be first. There is NO guarantee the father will stay around, mine did, thankfully. What if you have to do it alone? What if you can't finish school, or work? How will YOU support YOUR child? To me it is easy, I was blessed to have her young. I had problems through my pregnancy. I am Rh-. They told me I won't be able to have babies forever, My body will reject the shots, and kill the baby or both of us. I have Rh- very badly. I had Kai 3 weeks early. She weighed 8.1 lbs. I will be a diabetic with our next one. I know the struggles I went through, and honestly, I can't say a lot of the young girls I know, would be able to do it. It is a lot of work. It takes all of your time. You have no more time for you or friends, Being a Mom is a blessing. Not everyone should have that blessing as a teen. Some need to reach adult hood at the pace of everyone else, no as a teen mom. I had Kai, even with the doctors saying no to go through with it, bc of all the problems, I am only pro life, she is mine; as I am hers. I believe if you are mature enough to have sex, you should be ready for a baby. That is what sex is. That is how a baby is made. It is supposed to be beautiful. Unfortunately, that isn't always the case.
Curious - were you able to finish school or is that one of the things you sacrificed for Kai?