Teen Moms, is it hard?

I had my daughter 2 months before I turned 17. I wouldn't say it was hard. It was all natural to me, I raised my niece for the first year. I knew nothing was about me anymore and every decision would reflect on her. I had no problem with her crying or waking up every 3 hours for 2 hours, it never bothered me. She is now almost 2. I would in NO way ever tell a young girl to have a baby, it is emotionally hard. All of your friends lose touch, you push people away bc all you can do is be a Mom to your baby. You have NOTHING in common with your friends anymore. You don't party, drink, talk about boys. You talk about the last feeding, the diapers, the outfits, the spit-up, the mile stones your baby reached. You do NOT have time for friends. I learned that fast. I am a mom before a friend, a girlfriend, a daughter, an anything. That baby isn't something you have when you want, and hand off to someone else when things get tough. That isn't being a mom. You wake up every 3 hours feed the baby, change the baby, rock the baby, soothe the baby, cuddle the baby, nurture the baby. Everything you do is for the baby. You no longer care if you look hot going out. You care about making sure you have diapers and enough bottles. When the baby is older, you start to care more about what you look like, you have that time. But a MOM is what you will always be first. There is NO guarantee the father will stay around, mine did, thankfully. What if you have to do it alone? What if you can't finish school, or work? How will YOU support YOUR child? To me it is easy, I was blessed to have her young. I had problems through my pregnancy. I am Rh-. They told me I won't be able to have babies forever, My body will reject the shots, and kill the baby or both of us. I have Rh- very badly. I had Kai 3 weeks early. She weighed 8.1 lbs. I will be a diabetic with our next one. I know the struggles I went through, and honestly, I can't say a lot of the young girls I know, would be able to do it. It is a lot of work. It takes all of your time. You have no more time for you or friends, Being a Mom is a blessing. Not everyone should have that blessing as a teen. Some need to reach adult hood at the pace of everyone else, no as a teen mom. I had Kai, even with the doctors saying no to go through with it, bc of all the problems, I am only pro life, she is mine; as I am hers. I believe if you are mature enough to have sex, you should be ready for a baby. That is what sex is. That is how a baby is made. It is supposed to be beautiful. Unfortunately, that isn't always the case.

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      04/04/14
      8Theresa Gould
      Sounds like you had to grow up fast but you took motherhood seriously and are doing a great job. My sisters did too.
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        04/05/14
        Beth
        Cheyenne this is such a wonderful post. I applaud you for taking on so much responsibility and growing up so quickly at such a young age.

        Curious - were you able to finish school or is that one of the things you sacrificed for Kai?
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        04/05/14
        I had to sacrifice it, I was a diabetic, so my school told me it would stress my body walking the stairs and sitting in a class for 2 hours at a time. So I did online classes for the rest of the year, then 11th grade I never went back, I couldn't leave my daughter, so I started taking GED classes but I was so stressed. I am going to go back, but right now I am content with working from home, and it is what I want to do in the long run, so I am not too worried about anything.
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          09/06/14
          This is such a great post! You seem very mature for your age, which is a such a great/refreshing thing to see in a young mother! I had my son at 29 (almost 2 years ago) & I still get overwhelmed at times & will say "I couldn't imagine doing this at a younger age".. These moments are usually one of the many hardships of being a single parent though. No matter the age, some guys are not ready to be fathers. Sadly, it's become somewhat "normal" & acceptable for people to choose not to be there for their own child(ren). My story is a long one, so I won't go into detail here. I just wanted to applaud you & also agree with you that being a MOM isn't for everyone. You have plenty of time to have children after growing up more, enjoying your youth, & becoming more stable in life (both financially and emotionally! Good for you & best of luck to you in the future! :)
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          About Cheyenne Corey
          Current: Putnam, Connecticut
          Birth: September 20
          On Moms.com since: Mar 6, 2014
          Mom to a little princess, in love with my high school sweetheart, Loving life. Here to listen!