frustrated with men

I love my Boyfriend, he is wonderful for the most part, but he tends to forget about me, a lot. He's always doing for others. he will drop everything to help one of his friends, or a family member, but all to often he forgets that i need his help too. I take care of everything here at home, the kids, the house, the animals. sometimes i need someone to just take care of me. Not financially, but emotionally, physically, mentally. I know he loves me, and he has a good heart, I just wish he would think of me

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    04/05/14
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      04/05/14
      I understand where you come from with this. Lst night I just wanted some hot ginger tea to be made for me, but instead he said how about just a cold soda instead... it made me feel like it I didn't matter. But I ta;led with him this morning and explained that I try not to ask him to do things for me but that when he is sick I take care of him and that I expect the same thing in return. Sometimes all it takes is just to have a cool upfront conversation to get things in line. Good luck!
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      04/05/14
      i have tried that many times, and he understands, but somethings always makes him forget. and when he knows i am upset he does something funny to get me to forget for a while and we both ignore the issue, and it doesnt get solved. today it was about going to cocoa beach, been thinking all week that we were going together, and then tomorrow i was supposed to go out with the girls for the first time in over a year, i am always home with the kids. he gets guy time all the time. found out this morning after planning all week that he had made plans to go with the guys and there wasnt any room in the truck for me and the kids. it really hurt my feelings a lot. I spend everyday taking care of everything and always doing things to make him happy, and because we are currently having some money issues i canceled my plans to go to the beach with the girls, today was supposed a family day. and he says he didnt know i wanted to go to. I feel like he never really thinks of me, unless he wants me to do something for him. He used to be so different back when he was in the army, he did little things for me all the time, we moved home to florida, and it all stopped. I knew that all the sweet stuff would slow down, but never thought it would completely stop
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        04/05/14
        Beth
        Have you ever done the love languages quiz??? I have told my husband a million billion times that I would feel much more loved if he would just listen to me more carefully and take action on the things I say. My love language is gifts - it doesn't have to be an actual gift each time... it can be him coming home with milk for the family and giving it to me with a "hey I remembered we were running low, so I got this so you don't have to go to the store." Seriously, anything. I have told him SO MANY times, but it wasn't until we both sat down and took the love languages quiz together and he got a 0 for gifts and it was my highest score that he realized I wasn't just making it up. He was able to see his love language (touch) and when he thought about how much it means to him when I touch him it made him much more open to thinking about how I want to be loved. Since then, he is WAY better about it - he even brought me some chocolate home from work the other day because he knows I've been stressed out because of the move!
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        04/05/14
        Beth
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        04/05/14
        He says he does often, but we have had a rocky relationship. A year and a half ago he went through a really bad depression, and sort of turned our entire relationship upside down and did some things that took me a long time to forgive him for all the while saying he loved me, so I need more than words. its very seldom that he shows me his feelings, unless he has been drinking with friends, when he drinks feelings come out, but it would be nice to have those feelings come out when sober, and since he does not drink often, those feelings dont come out very often
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        About Raelee Klein
        Current: Orlando, Florida
        Birth: February 06
        On Moms.com since: Mar 17, 2014
        I am a stay at home mom, my kids are amazing, and too smart for me at times, love to sing and dance, and just hang out, and looking for people with kids the same age as mine so that i can introduce them to new friends!