Advocating for your family's health.
We all want to trust our doctors, and we should be able to. The thing is they're human just like us. They went to a lot of schooling to be where they are, but they only know what they've been taught. For some doctors it could have been years since they last were in school. That means that a lot of their knowledge is years old. A lot of them try to keep up with the latest updates in medical research, but again they're only human.
That's why it's up to us to advocate for our health and our children's health. Do your research. If you think something is wrong don't back down. Show the doctor what you know. Be polite of course, but don't take everything they say at face value. You know what's going on with your body better then they do. You know your children better then they do. Listen to what they have to say and combine it with your own research, then make your decision. If your doctor has a problem with the choice you made and you can't find any middle ground then it's time to look for a new provider.
After 2 miscarriages in 4 months I didn't want to hear "there's nothing we can do, miscarriages just happen sometimes" anymore. I knew that was true, but what was happening to me didn't seem like just a fluke. I researched and researched. I wrote a letter to my OB/GYN telling her that I needed to know more about what was happening to me then her average patient would. I said that I needed someone who could talk to me about the details and wasn't afraid to use big words. Basically I need a partner to help me solve this problem, and if she couldn't do that I would find someone else. She agreed to help me and it's been a great relationship ever since. We figured out that I had low progesterone levels and a month later I was pregnant with my daughter. My pregnancy was healthy and uneventful. Who knows how many more losses I would have had if I hadn't stood up for myself and gotten to the rout of the problem.
Don't be afraid to advocate for yourself.