Need some serious advice.
Luke and I have been battling our ups and downs with new pregnancy and there have been some pretty terrible things said on hos part about not wanting a family and mention of an abortion. These were all things said during the heat of the moment so I tried to let them go. But I found out that while I was sick and in bed last weekend from my migraine he was on facebook chatting with an Ex saying how he got a "gal" pregnant and he feels like we have nothing in common because I don't party and drink. He also told her how much he really cared for her and how much he thinks of her.
I confronted him this morning and he said he didn't know why he got in touch with her and that he has know excuse, but that he really does care about me and he does want us to work.
This being said. I try not to air our dirty laundry to public people, but I'm at the end of my rope with everything. I don't know if I can work through this. Because I will constantly be wondering if he is feeling something totally different then he is letting on. I also watched my parents do this growing up and I never have ever thought of putting my kids through this.
Tips are welcome!
I know it can take a while for people to show their "true colors" in a relationship, so you'll have to decide if this is how he really is or if it's just the stress of becoming a father. He may surprise you and become the worlds best dad once he sees that little bundle of joy, but he also may not.
I think you need to just focus on you right now. If he's bring you down then you need to step away and take care of yourself. Don't shut the door completely, but do what you need to be happy.
In my case I forgave him because we're married and I want the baby to grow up with both parents and because I know that he's honestly sorry.
But it sounds like your boyfriend is lying to both of you. You need to have a serious talk and he needs to man up and be totally honest with you because that baby deserves to have a father in his life that cares about him.
Whatever happens I wish you all the happiness in the world. Take care of that baby and try to keep that stress down.