she's making me feel like a bad mother

My mother in law gets drunk and says the most horrible things I can imagine. She says all she heard it's the baby cry when she's with me, which is not true, she only cries when she's hungry and mad that I don't hurry with her food.
Last night a friend came over and was holding the baby, she walked her and put her to sleep.My mother in law insisted that she hand her the baby, hesitantly she did and then told my husband she shouldn't have to go get her. He went and she threw a fit.She was drunk. She said that I'm on my phone all day if he ever wonders who I talk to, I have no friends now. She said she was gonna take the baby from us and call social services. All because she says we're keeping the baby from her. Am I wrong to not want her holding my baby breathing on my baby when she's drunk? I don't trust her babysitting my daughter. The other day she was about to start drinking while babysitting her when my husband got home.

Sorry it's king and depressing I just have no one to talk to

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    04/10/14
    Thank your both she's just hard to reason with.She thinks that by saying sorry the next day when she's sooner everything is ok
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      04/10/14
      Nope.. YOUR baby... YOU set the rules.. and it's really hard... One of my kids gram ma's wore terrible mass amounts of perfume and would always put her long fake fingernails in and around their mouths.. I hated it and felt like I couldn't say anything.. I would always get the "I raised four kids"... Finally. I said nicely.. "look.. You may think I'm being unreasonable.. but I'm uncomfortable and this needs to change if you want to hold MY baby"..

      She seems irrational.. I would lessen the amount of time she's there and around.. and have your husband talk to her.. and deal with it.. it's his mom..

      Your home, your baby, your rules..
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        04/10/14
        It will get better. The key word is that she is drunk and who wants someone around their child when their drinking and making rude comments? Not I! Put your foot down respectfully and share your thoughts and feelings with your husband . You are not a bad mother, and no one should ever ever ever make you feel that way when you know you're doing everything you can for your child! I hope this helps dear :-)
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          04/11/14
          Everybody sees how bad it is for her to be drinking the way she does. Finally her husband got mad and told her not to be around the baby when she's drunk. and ir looks like she's finally listening and not drinking with my baby around..i just see them have horrible rights and it's scares me.. You can day i was kinda sheltered from big fights like that.. everyone they argue i get scared. I never really was around this type of fights..
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            04/11/14
            Thank you all for the time and advise i really appreciate it
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