My son's friend is called "gay".
One of my son's best buddies doesn't have very many other friends. I asked my son why he thought that was, and he said that the other kids say he's "Gay".
I was shocked by this.. FIRST.. what does that actually mean at 9?
I asked my son what he thought and he shrugged and said, "I don't care. He's fun to hang out with".
My son may have more tolerance than some.. I have a few openly gay, married friends and they are amazing to me and my kids.. So, from very early on he knew that love is love.. and we celebrated when same sex marriage was made legal here.. He got it.. and we are Christian but we never understood why it was against the law.
Yes.. this friend is NOT the rough and tumble aggressive, soccer playing, football throwing boy.. but neither is my son.. Would I guess he's gay? No.. and if I did think he was gay, I wouldn't give a crap..
but what bothers me the most is these kids are NINE... and it's bigotry to say they don't like him BECAUSE he's "gay".. it's okay not to like him.. but to say that THAT's the reason? Ridiculous..
We live in Los Angeles... you would think that it would be a non issue.. who cares? But I feel badly for his mom.. how do you handle that.. how do you tell you son why people are jerks like that.. and then explain to him what he does that's "gay"...
I think you know when they are young.. and I think you can tell.. or have an inkling.. But that doesn't matter.. so what????
What would you do? what would you tell your child if they said someone was gay at this age and what would you tell your kid if people called him gay??
No... they mean gay like.. likes boys and acts like he has rainbows flying out of his butt..
The best I can do is raise Charlie to be open minded and accepting. And the only way I can do that is to expose him to as much as I can and teach him that people are allowed to have opinions and it's got nothing to do with him.
Exposure is the key and I get that. My kids have been exposed to a loving, caring, warm, funny married male couple since they can remember. They understand, that sometimes girls love girls and boys love boys.. They have both decided that they have crushes on the opposite sex but they don't "see" gay in our friends.. they just see John and Mike.