Hi fellow mom's...I have been struggling for the past few days with a situation that I just don't know how to move forward from.. My sister-in-law was just married in Jamaica and of course all of the family was husband and I decided we would go and my mother offered to watch our twins...the problem?? husbands aunt decided to put the bug in his ear that she would never be able to leave her babies behind and get on a guess what happened....yup that's right you know who didn't get to go on this lovely brief vacation but my husband of course did since it was his sister that was getting married. To say that I was furious, crushed and hurt to the max because I feel like my feelings and my SANITY was completely ignored...Even thought the trip was only 2 1/2 days what a great break that would have been for have some alone time with my husband in a romantic resort and also to have some much needed adult time to have a few drinks and enjoy the party...needless to say we had a huge blowout the other night and of course he repeated several times that he was sorry and begged for me forgive him...I want to I really do but every time I see a picture of the wedding on facebook especially one of my husband smiling enjoying himself it makes me so mad I have chest pains. I just don't know what to do I feel like this is going to consume me.

    Wow. I would be upset too Christine. Have you talked to your husband about this? I mean there's nothing anyone can do about what's happened. But maybe if he fully understood how badly a weekend away would have helped you...?

    Also, if your husbands aunt did this intentionally I would keep my distance. But if it just came up in conversation with your mother in law that's a different story all together.
      Thank you all so much for the advice. I do want to move on...I don't think his aunt made the comment to prevent me from going she's just very opinionated...but none the less I do believe it was what started this whole thing. Our conversation the other night was so heated and I was so hurt, it felt like I didn't matter like he didn't give me a second thought...he knows that I am here with the twins day in and day out most of the time I can't even take a shower until he gets home from work I am just having a hard time wrapping my head around the fact that I didn't matter. UGH this is so hard...I think I'll go ahead and write everything down I have to get all of this out I am afraid it will burn a hole in me and I'll never be able to forgive him.
        So here's an update...I sat down the other night and wrote a nice long note to my husband holding nothing back about how I felt then and now. It did help, I felt like I could breathe again a little, then I called a friend and asked her to meet me for drinks at our local TGIF's. I told my husband I was going out and handed him the letter. So of course about an hour or so after I left I started getting the text messages again saying how terribly sorry he was and if he could do it all again he would do everything differently..,I have to admit I was kind of raw in the letter I wanted him to know how much he hurt me and I wanted him to hurt a little too (I know it's a little childish) so while out with my friend we decided I needed a girls night once school is over (hubby is a teacher) my girlfriend and I will be doing an overnight in Atlantic City to enjoy some spa time, beach time and of course a little gambling...I feel better and I thank you all for listening to me and sharing your advise. I decided to deactivate my Facebook page because I was feeling physically ill looking at the pics of my husband in Jamaica and I thought it would be hard to let FB go but believe it or not it's easier than I thought. At some point I will activate my page again but for now I'm taking a break and also decided to start up again with my therapist I want to be able to feel happy again.
        About Christine Povinelli
        Current: Randolph, New Jersey
        Birth: August 15
        On since: Feb 10, 2014
        Hi! My name is Christine and I am a first time mom to 1 yr old twins Michael and Isabella.