Tantrums & hitting

Went to story time again this morning but it didn't go as well today. Aly was throwing tantrums off & on! I tried getting her attention to involve her in the activities but she wanted nothing to do with it today. I was hoping that once the toys came out she would be better but she started taking the other kids toys & when I corrected her she got frustrated & threw something. So we left early. :-/

She's never been like this in public before but has started throwing tantrums at home & is becoming much more naughty & defiant. I know it's a little early to start putting her in time outs but I don't know what else to do & have done a couple time outs now. Her biggest issue is that she has started hitting me or the animals. All the animals are wonderful & she used to be so good with them. She understands how to be nice but only when she wants to be. She'll run up to them & hit them with her hand or a toy. I tell her no & that it hurts when she hits. And if I don't hold her arms she will hit me. Then I would try to get her mind onto something else but she seems hell bent on just going to hit again. She laughs at me when I tell her no or if I stop her before she can hit again. I am so surprised & frustrated by her behavior! That's why I've started trying time outs with her. I get down to her level & tell her the same thing, "No hitting! It hurts." Then I tell her not to do it again or she'll have to go to time out. Then when she does it again, I tell her the same thing only that I follow it up with telling her she needs to sit in a time out. I know she won't sit for a time out so I sit her on the couch, turn off the tv or any distractions around her & just hold her legs to keep her on the couch. I sit her there for 1 minute & don't say anything or make any eye contact. I barely hold her & she's actually not struggled at all which surprises me. She does whine & cry a little but seems to know she's there because she did something wrong. When the time is up I explain it to her again, give her a hug & she is surprisingly much better!

I know everyone says she is too young to understand but I really do think she's realizing something cause I have had to do this about 3-4 times this week & she always behaves better after.

I would love anyone's advise and/or input on this issue.

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    04/11/14
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    04/11/14
    That just what I thought. I'll try a couple more times & if she keeps acting this way then we won't go. I don't want to ruin it for the other kids or have them pick up on any of her bad behaviors. I did same to her today "If you can't be good we are going to go." & Then when we did I said "Aly we are leaving because you were being bad." But I know she didn't get it cause she happily waved as we left. Go figure! I just felt I needed to try & explain something to her.
    Thanks!!
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      04/11/14
      I think disrupting the negative behavior in a safe way is good. We have an elderly cat, and Madeleine walks a fine line between loving her and tackling her. We try to connect single-word instructions to good actions ("gentle!"), and early on, we tried to establish that Maddie should pet with one finger ( hoping that even if she got rough, how much damage could she do?). Sometimes we still just have to snatch her up and away for everyone's best interest .
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      04/11/14
      Yes, we have used the word "nice" right from the start & def knows what it means because much of the time she pets them just like we do & when we're showing her while we say "nice". When she does it I say " Yes Aly nice! Such a good job being nice!" She usually will then give hugs or kisses to them too. The hitting has really come out of know where. I do have an older dog that doesn't tolerate it & luckily doesn't have many teeth so really can't do much. But she does growl & snap at Aly when she comes at her but Aly just thinks it's funny cause she doesn't understand. That one is hard to explain to her, but we try.
      Thank you for the input!
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        04/11/14
        8Theresa Gould
        Have you been busier than normal lately? If you have, maybe she's doing it for attention. If not, it sounds like you are doing as much as you can for a one year old.
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