My Marine Wife Story near EAS
I have been a Marine wife for a few years and am lucky to be getting ready to re-enter the civilian world with my husband. It has been a ride, I can tell you that much.
I met my husband when I was 12, so long before he joined the military. I can say for sure that it changes people. Or, if not such a blanket statement, it changed my husband.
There are a lot of strange mannerisms that go on in the military world that aren't acceptable in the civilian world.
A superior demeaning the wife of a Marine loudly and in her presence...
Telling someone with a broken ankle to suck it up and continue their many hours mountain hike with their hundred pounds of gear.
Angry... No not angry... RAGE filled communication filled with racial slurs, insults on every level, f bombs dropped about every third word... And that's when they are happy (I don't mean my husband, but this is common USMC practice...) When they are angry, way worse. Screaming spit in face style reprimands.
Beating the ever living hell out of one another on birthdays. I don't mean a few slaps. I mean bruises that literally last for months they are so deep. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
Anyway... There are nice things we've experienced
We've had wonderful friends who we've spent so much time with they called our home home too.
Neighbors from all over the country who still 'get it' We are all such different people, but we are all so far from our families and dealing with the same struggles that we build our own eclectic little families.
Getting to live interesting places I may have otherwise never experienced from Georgia to SoCal.
And some less fun stuff...
Not being able to get pregnant because hubby is gone all month (not anymore thankfully!)
The loneliness that comes with.moving hundreds of miles from family to a place I know no one and hubby is gone 95% of the time.
Hubby missing basically every single holiday- anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas, Thanksgiving... Everything.
Missing my family during those times too. A friend from England once ordered me a pizza online one Thanksgiving when I was alone. I saved the receipt I thought it was so sweet.
The worries of being able to fit back in with normal society. The worries of him being called to war. The worries about my family and friends. The worries, period.
But, it has made us strong and given us a ton of experience. His five years are up this month, back to society and family and living a 'real' life again. Freedom to travel, to move, to call in sick. To be respected.
Being a Marine wife isn't an easy job and neither is being a Marine.
Now, if they'll just finish up this process so we can get out of here. One last hurry up and wait and DONE. I'm ready! We both are! :D
I'm glad you guys are almost done! I hope you enjoy your time, and get to settle down in a great place! Give your husband our thanks for serving!
It'll definitely be an adjustment process, but you'll do just fine! Congrats on sticking up for yourself. A lot of the wives don't... Don't even know how to react in that situation. I don't think anyone really expects that from someone's new coworker unless you're from a military family to begin with.
Good luck on your journey!!
LOL That saying...haven't heard it, but I bet the officers here agree 100%! Most of the recruits here are kids fresh out of high school, or older divorced/single guys, so Trevor's kind of an oddity at this base, being in his early 20s and with a family.
I don't let myself get pushed around, anymore. I used to, but now, being a mommy, I can't let myself be weak like that anymore. I wanna let Nina know that it's ok to stand up for yourself, and not be walked on, even when it's to authority figures. I've seen some military spouses let themselves get walked all over, though, before, and I always hated it. I wouldn't say/do anything that they could actually punish Trevor for, but that won't ever stop me from sticking it to them, when they deserve it!
I cant wait to have you both home, have holidays, birthdays, or just days together. I miss you sooo much!! I love you, and will see you soon!!!