Spare the rod, spoil the child?
I know this excerpt from the Bible is used often to justify spanking. I have always wondered how it was a justification though. Typically the "rod" was what herders used to move their animals around as needed. So we see the rod as a guidance tool to keep the herd on a certain path. I seriously doubt that many herders beat their flock to get their point across. I'm sure some did, but it would make more sense that they wouldn't want to injure their animals and would use the rod simply as a guidance tool.
Same with our children, without guidance they will be spoiled. It makes sense to me.
Basically it's saying that if you love your child you will discipline him... if you don't, you will let him sin and make bad choices and not learn to repent..
It's pretty intense and super taken out of context by some in the Christian community that bring their children up in a certain way they claim to BE Christian...
In todays term... letting your kids act out and not have consequences.. it's only them to suffer in the long run.. A happy child is a a child that knows what's expected of them ..
Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.
Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die.
The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.
Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from Sheol.