Why I want to have a baby young
I'm not as young as some of the moms here, but still pretty young to be trying to conceive- in my early twenties. Hubby and I have been trying for a few years, so I had honestly thought I'd have my first before now. A lot of my friends think I'm Crazy with a capital C.
But, for me... Having a baby young feels right.
Those some people thought I'd lost my mind when I moved in with my now-husband at 17 and got married at 18. And, yeah... I probably had lost my mind, lol, but it works for me. This is the life I intended to lead and I enjoy being a wife.
I want to have a family. We are in a position to do so. We've already been doing 'adult life' for quite a long time. We're not in the honeymoon phase. We're not scrimping for money. And we pretty well got the party phase out a while back. It's not like we've not had some life experience either, especially with my husband being in the military. We've been through quite a bit as a couple. We're as ready as we'll ever be. I think deciding that isn't about age as much as it is your own life... I know people my age and older who are in no way ready for a child. I also know plenty of gals who are younger than me who are doing a mighty fine job at mommyhood. (Hello, Selena!) I think it just depends on YOU and your own situation and family.
I want to have the baby young not only because it feels right and because we can, but because I want to be 'in touch' with the younger generation still. I don't want to be the mom who can't work the newest technology or know what's going on in the world on the cutting edge. Science and discovery and technology are huge interests of mine, and I'd like to offer that to my kids too. I don't want to feel outdated, because I want to give my kids the best chance at their future I can.
I want the energy and vigor of being young so that I can run and play and hike and be silly without being worn out completely at the end of the day.
My husband's parents had him much older... He has siblings about my parents' age. And, it's kind of sad. Sure, they were financially stable and had plenty of experience... But our kids won't have much of an opportunity I don't think to have 'fun' grandparents. They won't experience the same things I did with my grandparents because they will be... well, old. I know my husband isn't fond of the idea of being in that same position when our kids have kids.
We want to have about four children, so with my fertility issues happening, that might take a bit. I want to start now. I don't want to be raising kids in my house when I'm 'old.' I want to still have some vitality to live and explore and travel after the kids are out and I have that experience and a different outlook on life. I want to have plenty of life to live to go enjoy the things we want after our babies are out of the house.
Also, my husband is a bit older than me, so I want to make sure he has energy still also... He'll be 26 this year, so he's teetering on that 'average' age to have kids and I want him to experience being a young dad who is full of fun still.
What about you?
Why did you/do you want to have kids young?
Or... Why did/do you want to have kids older?
If you've done both... Did you enjoy being an older or younger mother more? Why?
It does change your life in every aspect, but in a good way. I agree that it depends on person to person what age they decide. Some at age 30 still are not ready. For me , it was a great decision!!