First off let me say I love my husband very much we were together almost 9 years before we got married and had Owen who is now 3 months. I know that he loves Owen very much, BUT he doesn't spend a lot of time with him. I have to give him the baby for him to hold him, and when he does hold him he only does so for a little big before putting him down or putting him in a swing. He wont feed him unless I give him the baby and a bottle and I have to leave the room. If he is crying I have to tell him to "Go fix the baby" He wont just automatically go help him or see whats wrong. I have told him several times that he doesn't spend enough time with him and he needs to do more with him... but he doesn't... What's going on here? What's wrong? How do I get him to spend more time with our son with out totally loosing it? He comes home from work and is more worried about his supper then saying Hi to his son... I dont get it, I don't understand.... :(
I'm just as confused as you are. Maybe we both need to have a heart to heart with our hubbies about it. Maybe they don't realise what they're doing.
But I do remember my dad doing the same thing to my brother and my brother doing the same thing to both his kids.