I've mentioned it before, but I don't get along with my Dad. He's the party-er, alcoholic, druggie father who took us to parties that kids should not have been at, and left us to be watched by his drunk friends while he drank and drank and drank. I had successfully cut him out of my life, to my husband's irritation (his dad died when he was four, and he hates that I refuse to try to repair my relationship with my own dad), and I was completely fine with it. The last time I actually talked to my dad was at our wedding, and he left immediately after the I Do's because being there with my mom and step-dad made him uncomfortable. I was fine with that, too. I had invited him purely out of common courtesy.
When Nina was born, I extended a tiny olive branch, at my husband's insistence. I asked if he would like to meet his first grandchild. He said yes. However, during the visit, he got mad that I wouldn't just let her crawl around (she couldn't even crawl yet, much less sit up on her own) on his dusty, dirty, grimy, dog-hair covered, un-swept/vacuumed floor (seriously, it looks like it hasn't been cleaned since the day he moved in 22 years ago!), while his dogs who aren't great with children at all (I've seen two of them bite a kid before, who wasn't provoking or even looking at them) ran around barking the entire time. After that, his dad came over, who I don't mind as much but am still not close to. We talked for a little bit, while dad fell asleep for the rest of the visit. The entire experience was so unpleasant that I've decided to leave it off at that. My husband has decided to keep his mouth shut on the matter, these days, because we have yet to have any actual fights, and we know that if he keeps pushing it about my dad, we will, and he still will not win (smart man).
I got a text the other day from my dad. He had sent Nina a birthday/easter present, in the form of a giant pink bunny. I told him thank you, that it was cute, and the thought of him walking through a store carrying a giant pink bunny was hilarious. He is not that kind of guy. My husband gave me that look, saying without saying that he still thinks I should try to fix things. I still refuse. I don't mind that Nina won't get to know that particular grandpa as she grows up. My step dad is a good man, and will be a much better person to have in her life as grandpa, than my own dad.
Rant over! Sorries!