What do you do when your favorite OB moves or quits?

In my fifth pregnancy my favorite OB (she was in a group practice) announced she was leaving the practice, in fact leaving obstetrics all together, to just practice gynecology. I was floored. She delivered our first and our fourth babies and was with me through my first miscarriage. I think we bonded through the miscarriage because I lost a lot of blood and she thought she was going to lose me. I always saw her for my OB checkups, even though one of her colleagues could deliver.

I think her announcement propelled me to look more at home births. I tried another OB practice at her recommendation. I tried a family practice and finally decided I was not going to find another Dr. like her. I was seriously attached to this doctor and it took a long time to get over losing her. She "got" me or at least tolerated my ideas. She always gave her opinion and wasn't afraid to do so but let me make the final decision for myself.

Have you ever lost a favorite doctor? How did you react? What did you do to get over it?

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8Theresa GouldChicago, Illinois
    08/20/13
    That stinks, Theresa! I am glad in the long run it helped you seek other options that you came to love with other kiddos. I am actually going to have to sit down with my doc in a few weeks and express to her my concerns about her only delivering at one hospital, across the city. Columbus has SO many amazing medical groups and huge hospitals.. and one happens to be 2 minutes from our house.. just not the one SHE delivers at.. go figure. Right now though.. I love her and feel like she would probably know someone who could deliver where I want to go.. has anyone ever had to make a switch like this? In all reality, she might not even deliver my baby, if she is gone or what not.. because they did give a list of other docs that would do so incase she cannot. Did you all think it was important to have the doc you LOVED deliver your baby? Or is it more about the place and the nurses? Especially if I plan to have an epidural and be in the hospital. Any advice appreciated :)
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    8Theresa Gould
    I had two other doctors deliver three other babies. Dr. S delivered #2 and #3. He was nice and all but all he really did was catch baby and see me six weeks postpartum. He would have been my second choice but he left the practice to teach. The third doctor barely made it to the delivery room and just barely caught our fifth child because I was getting "pushy" before she even got to the hospital but the nurse wasn't comfortable letting me push as she preferred the doctor to be there....this is an OB nurse and she wasn't comfortable catching a baby?

    The nurses I could take them or leave them. I hated hospital protocols. There was actually one nurse who didn't give me grief over nursing my baby in bed and she told me to do what I do at home...though she indicated she was in a little aw of me as that was our fifth child.

    There are so many factors that make a birth it's hard to pin point any one thing. Obviously I got over not having my favorite OB and there are good nurses and bad. I just wish the ones whose hearts are no longer in nursing would retire. They are a disgrace to the profession of nursing, unfortunately. :(
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      8Theresa Gould
      I don't believe the bond I had with my OB was forced. You should have seen the look a nurse gave my doctor when doctor said I could eat and drink in my fourth labor. Dr. told the nurse I was to do whatever I wanted and they were to leave me to it. I have never had a doctor do that for me. Only my midwife.
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