Birth Doula

This is my first baby, and I want my labor and delivery to go smoothly. I prefer a holistic approach - au naturale. In the first trimester, this baby was exposed to a significant amount of cortisol (depression hormone). I'm feeling guilty and don't want to further expose her to medications or other chemicals that might have adverse, long term effects.

Has anyone used a birth doula? What did you pay? What was yours and your significant others' experience with the doula?

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    04/19/14
    4Katie
    Hi MaryJane!

    I suggest you start by interviewing doulas in your area. Make a list of questions or concerns you have for the doula. Also ask your doctor or hospital if they can recommend any doulas.

    Personally I make it a point to make the dad or other family members feel very included. I let the dad know that I am there to help meet his needs as well. I make sure the dad has time to eat and rest.

    There is a huge variety in what doulas believe in, just like what doctor believe in. It is best to make sure you find the right one for you. If you need help finding one or creating a list of questions let me know.
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      04/20/14
      I hired the first doula I interviewed. I talked with her for an hour. I really liked her credentials, and I had a really good feeling about her at the first meeting. She's expensive, but I think for the time and energy she's going to be expending she has bills of her own to pay as she does this full time.

      My fiancé Erik thinks I'll be screaming for the epidural or pain meds at the first sign of pain. With some meditation and breathing techniques I can do it.
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      04/20/14
      4Katie
      Make sure you start practicing those techniques now. They work best when you have been practicing and using them for awhile. Just trying them while you are in labor without practice it not very helpful.
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        04/20/14
        4Katie
        I was just a doula for a very exciting birth this morning.
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        4Katie
        The delivery I attended today was much different than usual. Baby was born very quickly and unexpectedly so I actually had to help (doulas don't do that normally and I have never done that before). Mom and baby are great.

        Nothing the moms or dads do ever bothers me. We all do weird things when we are in pain and stressed out and I have never had anyone do anything the bothered me. As a doula I am there to support whatever choices that mom makes. I am not there to make choices for her or much her in one direction or another. I am just there to help her and support her.

        I require all of my doula patients to take a childbirth class (I prefer my class). I also require all to make a birth plan with me. I want my patients to be able to make informed choices. I also want to make sure that I understand all of their needs and preferences.

        Don't worry about your doulas feelings, you do what is best for you. I am sure that your doula will not be bother by anything you do or say. Just make sure you respect her time by keeping all appointments or giving notice for cancellations, pay her on time as agreed upon, make sure you let her know immediately when you think you are in labor so she can make arrangements for her children.
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        About MaryJane
        Birth: March 25
        On Moms.com since: Apr 18, 2014
        Pregnant back to back. I have a baby girl and another on the way. I'm also a pseudo-step mom to 2 tweens.