Second week of school, first night of "real" homework... Ugh...

And here we go... My son is awesome... MOST of the time... But, man when he is Un awesome... I want to lose my mind...

No one loves homework... Especially me... BUT, it has to be done. Period. He's tired and does NOT want to do it... I get it.. I know the feeling buddy... I tell him, 'look. push through for one hour and you're golden...' But, he's just so stuck in his head and distracted and annoyed with it all that I cannot get him to go more than 5 minutes without complaining about how their shouldn't even BE homework and that they don't have it in Europe and they're smart...

I agree with him.. I think a small amount of homework a couple of days is fair... But, I'm sorry.. My kid is a KID.. He's barely NINE.. He's been there for almost 8 hours... let him PLAY...I think kids should be outside in the afternoon or playing with friends.. NOT doing homework... But if I wait past say, 430 or 5... Hes' too wiped out and exhausted...

This isn't every night... I would say every two months we have a full meltdown... and then it passes... It's one of those things I tell him, you can hate it all you want, but that's not going to make it go away... SO you have to find a way to deal...Life is about doing crap you don't wanna do... do you waste EXTRA time whining about it or just buckle down and spend as little as possible on it?

So, tonight.. I'm shocked that it started so soon... Ugh... I thought Oh Hell NO...

So, I lost it. I sent him to his room and said, I will NOT do this with you. You are old enough to handle and you will find a way... (this of course is after I got him water and a snack and let him take a break and use the bathroom, then another break and to get the mail, etc...) SO, after an hour of this, and half a page done and my mood going down hill FAST, I thought no .. no way is this going to happen so SOON... You gotta EARN a meltdown every now and then, right?

I told him to sit in his room until he finished his homework. Period.. He came out 20 minutes later and was half way through... fine.. break and he sat at the table and he ate with his homework and then took a shower and is BACK with his homework... 2 plus hours now... That homework will be done... He will not get tv or a snack or his cookie until it is.... If it's bed time then he misses it all and has to wake right up and GO BACK to it....

SO, here we are.. as I write this... almost 7 pm here and he's right next to me, telling me he needs a tissue... I knew that, so I pull one out of my pocket...

Oh, it's on.... and no.. he does not have ADD or ADHD... or anything like that... He's just 9...

God help us all...

AHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAH!!!!!! Wheres my vodka?????

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    08/20/13
    Jessika, you write so exiting, that I think I've done all this work together with you))

    God bless you, it's not easy with 9 years old.. but your sence of humor and patience are awesome! And you do all the best for your kids.
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      08/20/13
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      08/20/13
      Thanks Lisa.. Good idea.. I took away his time on Minecraft... which is his "thing" right now.. and told him, it's HIS time to lose... Instead of working to earn it, I told him you have it already... it's your time to lose... SO, you lose it if homework goes past an hour... you have it, if you get it done...

      I'm with him... I hate homework.. I GET why it's there.. I do... And maybe if he was behind in reading or math than I might feel differently about homework... But thank GOD, he's a little above average in all areas, and I feel like he should be able to chill after school... But alas... it's not going anywhere...

      MOST times, he will work on a reward system... whether it's time on a game or swimming or I play UNO with him... I try not to punish him for being 9... but rather teach him that there is stuff you wont want to do for the rest of your life and to choose to NOT give it more time... It's wasted energy on somthing that you want to gove NO energy to...

      The timer thing... great for my daugfhter... lol.. brings anxiety to my boy... the looming "ding ding ding" infuriates him... SO funny how different they can be....
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        08/20/13
        I held my ground and he ended up having to go right to bed after he finished... Even though, I COULD have let him have 20 more minutes, I wanted to make a POINT of him understanding the direct impact...
        THis morning I said to him... "you wasted your night last night and made your whole afternoon about the one thing you hate... That's over yes?"
        He said, Yes... And then asked if he could play Minecraft today or if it was still taken away until the weekend... I told him he could earn it back by showing me that he learned from today..
        I also think it's important that he understands that I KNOW what he feels and that I feel it to... I don't want him to think that he will suddenly LIKE homework.. I want him to understand the life lesson of it all... you know?
        Stuff needs to get done... I told him I hate doing laundry... that laundry is my enemy and I HATE it with passion and I told him, every five days.. I just have to suck it up and do it and get through it... So that I can enjoy the time after...
        He will get it... I hope... I look forward to the next meltdown in two months... Thank you everyone!!!!!!!
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        About Jessica
        Born: Novato, California
        Current: Sherman Oaks, California
        Birth: May 28
        On Moms.com since: Aug 5, 2013
        We live in Los Angeles, CA. I'm a writer, comedian, actor and single mom of two. Parenting is hard. I try to keep a sense of humor about it all and find the find the funny... in what is most likely NOT funny (i.e. boogers, meltdowns, homework, etc.).