So apparently I spoiled my baby and now when she isn't getting talked to or picked up she cries. She will be perfectly fine but when she is sitting in front of someone who isn't paying attention to her she gets so mad. Any advice on how to fix that?
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I don't know if I'd "fix" it--instead, indulge it! Baby learns so much from face to face time, so try to provide as much of it as you can. Babies can be divas, but the more you talk and pay attention to them, the smarter they will be. :)
i had the same problem and the only way to break her of it is a long painful process. when she gets upset from not having the attention she wants, you have to walk away and ignore her. every time. if you don't this will carry into her toddler years and trust me, it'll get a LOT worse. yes there is no such thing as spoiling a baby becuase they are just well loved but she needs to learn that temper tantrums are not okay and the only way to instill that in her mind is to start young.
I think at an older age, whether or not to tolerate temper tantrums is definitely an issue. However, developmentally, at three months old, a baby is not capable of throwing a "tantrum." It is not about wants, but rather necessity, and a baby does need face-to-face time to develop. I appreciate that it is the difficulty of every mother to be able to provide this each and every time, but at three months old, I don't think it is at risk of becoming "habit" any more than crying for food or sleep is "habit."
I don't think a 3month old baby is mental capable of having a temper tantrum. Their brain is not developed enough to understand that. They cry because they have a need and they need it met. A need can be as simple as being scared or lonely. For babies when we are out of their sight it is like we disappeared and are gone forever, they cry because they are scared we are never coming back.
Agree with Katie.
Thank you everyone. I've been told that I spoiled her and that is why she acts like this. It makes me feel better knowing that I'm not spoiling her and just giving her the attention she needs.
Oh no no no, honey. You are a mom, and following your mom instinct is right 99% of the time, and most of the time, makes your life easier too! There's no way you're spoiling your girl--you're giving her just what she needs. :)
the problem is they spoil her and give her attention when ever she cries. because she thinks she can get what she wants from them from crying. she knows its different with you. she is just learning how to play people XD
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