Target Screaming Child

I was in Target during my lunch break doing some shopping for the family. I was picking up formula and baby food and I hear this kid talking to her mom in such a rude way demanding that her mom buy her new clothes. This little girl was maybe 4-7 years old. Her brother was in the cart being quiet and playing with his little duck. The mom was trying to tell the little girl that she was not getting her anymore clothes, and the daughter was just getting more and more demanding. I walk away, and after walking around some more I turn a corner and while walking down the isle close to the toys I find this same little girl on the floor screaming her head off and saying "go back" "go back" and pointing to the toys. Her mom sweeps her up and puts her in the cart and walks away. The little girl is getting more and more upset and screams so loud that everyone around can hears.

The big issue that I had here, instead of taking the little girl outside or doing something, the mom just ignores the daughter and lets her keep on screaming for more stuff. Then the little girl starts screaming "Owe you hurt me, Owe you hurt me" on the top of her lungs. I am just shocked and standing in line, and I can hear the other customers around me feeling embarrassed and uncomfortable. Finally, as I am leaving I see the little girl and the mom and the mom was paying for a group of new clothes and toys for the little girl.

This upset me and pray and hope that Hunter does not turn out to be this spoiled. I was shocked and mortified and being a mother to an 8 month old and a "step" mom to a 10 year old I would hope & expect them to not every act like that. They know that if they want something they have to earn it. Nothing is just given in our family. Good grades, good behavior and especially good manners help you to get what you want. But crying and having tantrums like that just will not cut it. If my child was that selfish or rude like that in a store, I would have just walked out. How could a parent let their child get that spoiled where the child controls EVERYTHING. Sorry, just had to tell what happened and give my 2 cents.

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    04/21/14
    My baby doesn't want materials just yet, so I've never had to deal. I too cringe when I hear spoiled kids, I even know a few, and I feel like there should be a line between loving with love and loving with things. It sounds like maybe this girl is loved with things, and that could be all she knows. I think it's easy for a well-being parent to do, but it doesn't solve the problem.
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      04/21/14
      8Theresa Gould
      How can we know the heart of that mom? I feel sorry for both of them. :(
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        04/21/14
        4Katie
        I use to be judgmental about situations like this but after having four kids I stopped. It is impossible to know if there are other issues involved here, maybe the child had a developmental or emotional disorder, maybe the child is just high strung, maybe the mom was buying toys or clothes for someone else. It is really easy to make judgments when we only have bits and pieces of the info.

        My first child was so easy and perfectly behaved. I totally judged people that couldn't control their toddlers. Or let their kids scream in a store a restaurant.

        My second child was born with serious medical problems. She looked normal but was severely delayed. She used a pacifier until she was 5yrs old, for medical reasons. Many people judged us for her pacifier use, we even had more than one stranger try to pull it out of her mouth and tell her she didn't need it. She is 7yr old now and still needs to ride in stroller part of the time, her stroller is a medical chair but looks a lot like a stroller. We have had rude comments and stares for it. She looks normal and healthy on the outside.

        My third is a strong will child who cries and has a tantrum for everything, and I mean everything. You look at her wrong, blink wrong, anything and she will throw a tantrum. It is just how she is and we do our best. If we left a public place every time she cried or throws a tantrum we would never get anything done.

        My fourth baby is easy and well behaved. She is always happy and listens even at her young age.

        So basically I have realized it is not fair to judge people, especially based on a situation like this. I completely understand the urge to judge, I still start letting the thoughts go through my head but I try to remind myself not to.
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          04/21/14
          You are all right, I should not have judged this mom, I do not know the situation with this family and I should not have jumped to any conclusion. However, I did watch this mom and how she was acting, and she was just whatever about everything. Letting her little girl cry and then finally giving in to get her to quiet down it seemed like. I need to be more understanding of these situations. It just bothers me seeing children who are so spoiled and who seem to control their parents. I am noticing more and more around me. Kids saying I want this, and parents just running and getting them everything and anything that they want. It just bothers me especially more when the children make these outlandish threats that their parents are hurting them and what not, and I just feel bad for the parents. I have been through the ringer under child investigation for hurting my son when he was just 6 weeks old. Neither myself nor his dad would ever lay a hand on them, but someone who I thought was a friend decided to make outlandish claims and we had to go through child protective services. It just hurts me to see kids take advantage of their parents and do this to them. This is why I think that children should not be that spoiled to make hurtful threats that their parents are hurting them just to get whatever they want.
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          04/21/14
          4Katie
          I went through the ringer with a CPS investigation too. My daughter's illness made her very skinny and sick and someone thought we didn't feed her on purpose and reported us. It was horrible and terrifying.
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            04/21/14
            I am not sure what the definition of a bratty kid would be. I was a strong willed child and may be my daughter will turn out to be one too. Sometimes kids don give up when they want something and as they grow up the same quality shapes their personality and makes them a fighter who will achieve what they want in life so I wouldn't judge a mom on her kid's tantrums there can be so many reasons for her doing what she does.
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              04/21/14
              4Ariel LaCoste
              luckily my children dont throw tantrums for material things. Now they do throw tantrums but not that often. When they do I usually make a trip to the family restroom and let them get it out of their system in there, where everyone doesnt have to listen to it. I try to respect others and not make them listen to it. But I tell you what it does irritate me when I get dirty looks from people when my kid does start screaming, crying, whatever. Im sorry but kids throw fits. I'm trying to get to a quiet place to deal with it. At least I dont hit my kids. I talk calmly to them and try to understand. I'm sorry but they are a tiny person and they are allowed to have melt downs. Just like we adults do. It's like its a lose lose when it does happen
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              Born: Los Angeles, California
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              Birth: December 08
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              I am a mom to a beautiful boy named Hunter as well as a "step" mom to my boyfriends 10 year old daughter. I work full time, while my boyfriend is a stay-at-home dad for my son. I love cooking and being a mom and spending time with my family.