Why he left...

Well I am new to the blog scene but I figured maybe with some help I could feel better about my situation. I was with a man for almost 4 years, he is the father of my baby boy. He walked out on me last Sunday because he was not happy. He said I am too controlling and that he wants to be able to go out and drink with the guys and spend his days off doing what he wants, he said im too lazy and always want to sit home. He is 21, I am 20. He left me with a house full of bills he knows I can barely afford on a waitress salary,especially with restricted work hours due to braxton hicks. I went and saw a lawyer today because he keeps throwing a custody battle up in my face. I begged him to stay,and he still walked away. I guess im just trying to find some peace through all of this and take some stress off of me because my little boy feels it, hoping some of you moms can help me out.... <3

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    04/21/14
    Oh goodness Manda.. first off, we are all here, anytime you need to post, chat, etc.. I am so sorry about your situation and what seems to have happened recently.. Do you have an inkling you would ever work it out with him? Or is it a done deal? If he is only your boyfriend, you are pretty safe I think when it comes to YOU keeping that babe for yourself.. especially if he has walked out on you.. but it's a great step that you went to see a lawyer to be prepared.. I hate to hear how stressed you must be.. and I am sure it's hard not to be.. do you have other family or friends to go to and that can help you out during this time?
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    04/21/14
    I went and talked to a lawyer today because he kept throwing it in my face he was getting one. It made me feel much better, but I guess its just the perfect family picture in my head that I cant erase ya know. Im pretty sure its a done deal, I made myself out to be an idiot and pleaded for him to stay, but he said he wouldnt. That the only thing he cared about is his son,& thats all there is to talk about. I just dont know why ya know? I guess i ignored the signs. It was always a fight to go to dr. appointments, and he never wanted to touch my belly I would have to force him or beg him to. I have an amazing family.They really have been the only ones supportive to me this entire time.
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      04/21/14
      Yes, my family, especially my mom is awesome... but being that im her daughter she just wants me to get over him and be fine, which im trying to do, but its hard.
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        04/21/14
        Oh Manda, I am so sorry that you are going through such a rough time,when this should be the most exciting time for you. I'm sorry that your ex man is putting you through all this stress at this time because stress is the last thing you should be having to go through. I know how it is to try to make ends meet on a waitress salary, it's not fun at all. Now that its only you and your little one will be arriving soon, There is no harm in asking for a little help. Make sure you get WIC they will help with formula if thats the route you go and plus help you eat cleaner for the baby. Also you can get on food stamps and as far as your utility bills and such contact your local churches because they sometimes have programs to help with those situations.I hope he realizes what a mistake he has made in leaving.
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          04/21/14
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          Current: Carleton, Michigan
          Birth: April 13
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          Well I am a 20 year old newly single mommy.
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