I didn't keep my maiden name
I didn't keep my maiden name when I got married. To me, taking my husband's name just comes with the territory, so I became an Owens.
My maiden name already didn't fit on my bank card, do hyphenating would have been insane, lol. I went from 24 letters to 21.
Plus, for me, marriage is for life... No matter how rough it gets, my husband decided before we were married that divorce isn't an option. Period. Even if were suffering, we would suffer together lol. I don't like how especially people who get married as young as we did (I was 18) and military families too, have that cliche of throwaway marriages. I don't want that.
When I married my husband, I consider that becoming family. I've always thought it was strange when families have different last names. I'm sure there are reasons, but I don't have any of them.
My mother in law has a different last name from my husband and it took me ages to remember that.
When we have kids, I definitely don't want to worry about choosing one or the others name. We are a unit and I want our name to signify that.
I will say though that even though I don't know some of my family, unless my uncle marries a girl and has kids, I was the last with my last name. I feel kind of bad for breaking that chain since I imagine it was a long one... But what can I do?
I really hope my uncle has a son because I feel like my name and my family are rich in history, even if I don't know all of it. I don't want it to just go away... Maybe I've got some more distant relatives who I don't know who are close enough to still carry the mountain traditions and the namesake.
What about you ladies?
Did you/will you take your husband's last name?
Also, if you got divorced, did you switch your name back to your maiden name?
My mom is divorced, though, she kept her married name when she left my dad, but replaced it with my stepdad's last name. She went from Skorich (Maiden) to Laughlin (First Marriage) to Fierce (Current Marriage)...that always bugged me, especially when she bugged me about not keeping my name or hyphenating it. "Laughlin" just wasn't me anymore.
Love is not a place
To come and go as we please
It's a house we answer in
Then commit to never leave
So lock the door behind you
Throw away the key
We'll work it out together
Let it bring us to our knees
Love is a shelter in a raging storm
Love is peace in the middle of a war
And if we try to leave
May God send angels to guard the door
No, love is not a fight
But it's something worth fighting for
To some love is a word
That they can fall into
But when they're falling out
Keeping that word is hard to do
~ Warren Barfield - Love Is Not A Fight
I'm thinking of hyphenating my last name with Erik's last name. As this will be both our 2nd marriage, we're being really careful about making things legal. He's also said it'd be easier to drop his name if we didn't work out. I agree.