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i am trying for my second child and can not concive and i may just be freaked out but i need some serious help or tips or what ever you got

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    04/25/14
    how long have you been trying? There are some ovulation apps that help you track your ovulation but not everyone ovulates normally. Once you've tried for a year without results you should go see a doctor. The fact that you've had one child should work in your favor though.
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    04/25/14
    i have tried the apps but im irregular so im thinking they may be irregular as well idk but i have been trying since January and every time i take a test i just get a little more upset i cry alot lately and i have tender breasts and alot ,alot of cramping but i had gotten my period and i figure im not now but i still have these symptoms as well with a massive amount of sleepiness going on im praying and trying so many things to try to speed up i see others pregnant around me and i cry because i cant conceive or haven't yet cause i dont want to say i can not but just not yet
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      04/25/14
      Hi Cait!

      I am also trying to conceive and have been since January. We have been in the same boat.

      Scientifically speaking, the best thing you can do is try to relax. Stressing is the worst thing you can do for your body. I know thats the WORST thing to hear, but it's really true. KEEP PRACTICING, not only is it fun, but it is the way to have a baby. ;) As far as tracking ovulation, the app I truly LOVE is Lady Tracker, It's been a serious blessing. The other thing to do, is ovulation testing. I have had slightly irregular cycle so using opk's have been a life saver.

      Lastly, build a support system. This community has been really great for me, and my friends have also been awesome. Getting a doctor on board may help too. :) Keep your head up, you'll have another baby when the time is right.
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      04/25/14
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        04/25/14
        Hi Cait!

        Good/bad news is you really haven't been trying for that long! On average it takes healthy couples 6 months to a year to get pregnant- longer if your coming off of birth control. Four months isn't that long, although I'm sure it feels like an eternity.

        What are you doing in terms of tracking your cycle? If your irregular you may very well be missing your ovulation day. Do you use OPKs? Temp? Chart? If not I'd recommend all of the above. The temping will tell you if you have in fact ovulated, the OPKs will tell you right before you ovulate (which is when you wary to have sex). Keeping track of both of those will allow you to see if your timing is right and if there's anything else going on (like anovulatory cycles).
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          04/25/14
          Hi Cait: I completely understand your frustration and disappointment. It took me 3 years to successfully get pregnant. I had irregular periods and sometimes wouldn't ovulate at all. My best advise to you is to relax and enjoy practicing with your husband without the pressure and expectation that this is the time its going to work. Stop trying so hard...it will happen for you! I wish you all the best and try to stay positive.
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            04/25/14
            It's so great that we have so many knowledgeable moms on this site, kudos for being so supportive ladies!

            Cait valenti I know that not being stressed is the hardest thing to do and so much easier said than done, but it plays a huge role. My ex husband and I tried for years with no luck, A few years later I met my current bf and we had a child right away. There are a lot of factors that play into it. Go on a date with your hubs, have some wine, enjoy having just Mollie (LOVE THAT NAME!!) for a little while. Things will fall into place, I promise! Hugs!
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              04/25/14
              it was quit a move it was my mother my four sisters my grandmother my moms faince and his son and my husband and his friend me and mollie flew here but everyone else drove my husband drove our two cats and my mom had her bull mastiff and guinea pig and my grandmothers two shitzus we all made it but its okay certianly not not new york i had lived here when i was much younger i live on camp pendaltin with my mom and uncle (sorry about the spelling) its much much cheaper then new york tho
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              About Cait valenti
              Born: Kingston, New York
              Current: Hemet, California
              Birth: November 26
              On Moms.com since: Apr 25, 2014
              i have one beautiful daughter and trying for another one or two with her great dad/husband. we also have two kitties first is roger then other is finn. we moved from New york to California in july 20th of 2013. tattooed pierced hippy loving family