How frequently to have intercourse to get pregnant

I know a few different schools of thought about how often you should have intercourse when you're TTC (trying to conceive in case you've not been hopping around on baby forums for ages ;) ) There are pros and cons with each method.

I've read some people say to just have sex everyday and you'll definitely catch ovulation... Well yeah, that sounds great at face value. But. (There's always a but to those catch all solutions it seems, eh?) Firstly, not all of us have the time, energy, or libido for that. Whether its conflicting work schedules, kids, whatever... That's just not always feasible. Plus, I've read that sperm need a bit of time to mature to be nice and strong to swim to the egg. I think it takes a couple days for them to mature. And... Semen changes your vaginal pH. In a perfect world, ejaculatory fluid has the perfect pH for the swimmers, but mix that constantly with your own juices and I imagine the pH would get off kilter. This is armchair speculation at best though. I have zero research to support this.

Okay, then there's the option of having sex every couple days, with one or two days between sessions. This seems to be a pretty good option, I think. That way, if you ovulate early or late, you'll still probably catch it. It can keep the passion up a bit... Which is important. If the woman has an orgasm post male ejaculation, it gets sucked up inside you. The sperm, I mean. Every little bit those spermies don't have to swim, the better your chances. However, trying to stick to a strict schedule 1. Isn't always feasible and 2. Stresses some people out. It is scheduled. Non spontaneous. Keeps TTC at the forefront of your mind instead of connecting with your partner... And stress=not good for fertility for either party. Everyone who has heard "Relax and it'll happen" over 9000 times has got this one drilled firmly in their head.

Then, of course, you can chart and track and BBT and OPK and spit in microscopes and have intercourse around ovulation. That's a great method if you can chill out. Again, stress is no bueno. But if it's fun for you, go for it!

My husband and I have just gone with the method of do it when we feel like it. Yeah, maybe not the most exact method... But meh. With high ANA levels and my husband being in a high stress job til now, neither one of us needs stress. Sex needs to be fun and enjoyable and maybe even relaxing. Baby or not, reprieve lol.

And hey, I have a question... I know the put your hips in the air thing is supposed to be a myth.... But do you know if it helps with a really tilted uterus? Do they just go up? How do sperm know which direction to go? I don't imagine they can smell an egg... Why don't they just swim right back out the opening?

Tangent.... Tilted uterus... Can I help sperm get to the right place?

Aaaand.... How often do you have intercourse when TTC?

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    04/25/14
    New science says something like the sperm recognizes the protein on the outside of the egg - there was an article that came out about it like last week.

    Sex every day is fine unless there is a MIF (male infertility) issue - like high morphology or low mobility. Otherwise it takes 24ish hours for sperm to replenish in a normal situation and sex every day is fine. Some people recommend every other day which is likely equally fine.

    This cycle we're doing SMEP (sperm meets egg plan) where you DTD every other day starting CD8 and once you get a positive OPK you have sex for that day and the following day then skip a day and have sex the next. It is planned, but we are a-ok with that. For us it's definitely not stressful, but slightly exhausting.
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      04/25/14
      haha.. Cassaundra Owens I absolutely adore reading your posts! With my ex husband I charted, got the fertility apps, the ovulation monitors, tilted my hips, tried sex all the time, tried sex just around ovulation, relaxed and just went with it... you name it I tried it. It just wasn't in the stars for us.

      Fast forward a few years, I go to Vegas with the new man and wham! Baby! lol the stars were aligned I suppose.

      So I'm not sure what's just talk and what works and what doesn't.. I think there are things we like to think we're controlling and sometimes we're right, sometimes we're wrong. As they say in Vegas, it's a crap shoot :)
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        04/25/14
        Beth
        With Mason, we were having sex every other day because we were actively TTC. It took us 2 months to get pregnant with him, but neither of us have any fertility issues that we know of. Having read through a pregnancy book my neighbor gave me I realized there are a LOT of factors that go into conception. I'd say do whatever makes you feel good and anything your doctor suggests on top of that ;)
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          04/25/14
          I'm not advocating for every day sex if it's not what the couple wants but it's important to know that fertility specialists say that sex every day is perfectly fine unless there is some sort of make fertility issues. The sperm takes a day to replenish. Getting two days worth at once vs having it spread out among two days doesn't make a difference unless there is a reason the guy needs more in one go (like a motility or morphology issue).
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            04/25/14
            I suppose it really depends on the doctor you are talking to. As with everyone, even doctors have different opinions.
            I was told by my gyno that raising the hips during intercourse would help with a tilted uterus . In my opinion sex every other day is more of a viable option, but again this is only an opinion.
            I am a firm believer that when it is meant to happen, it will. In the meantime just enjoy trying!
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            06/09/14
            the tilting of the hips worked for us
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              04/28/14
              Not sure about the tilted uterus. A family acquaintance of mine told me to rub my tummy and support my legs up against a wall immediately after sex. Do this for 20 minutes she saids. I think it's the same as propping a pillow under your hips.

              We had sex everyday the month I got pregnant. To keep my libido up, I was also walking home from work almost every day, and it took me an hour to get home. I also lost weight that month.
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                06/09/14
                loosing weight can increase ur chances of conceiving ...I did and lost 20 pounds before I came out pregnant n I gained some of the lost weight back =( but im glad I have an amazing baby boy now
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                I'm a little strange, pretty green, and learning to live life as a wife, future mother, and entrepreneur. Right now, my husband and I are trying for our first after 3.5 years of infertility and 2 losses. Viva la adventure! Join me too at MortalMommy.com!